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Question: How to stay strong as a couple when pregnant?

(Posted by: on 2011-08-19 05:51:38)

So I'm 25 weeks pregnant with identical twin girls and I am literally the size of a house and I still have so long to go before they are due! So my question is this, how do you remain close to your partner during pregnancy? My husband and I have made a conscious effort to make sure we have 'our time' at least once a week, whether it be going to the cinema, for a meal or just for a walk around our local park. I'm still working full time so I feel like I still have some normality left in my life, but I do feel as though I am just a walking whale (or make that waddling). I know it's difficult for the partner to feel involved in the pregnancy and my husband has said that he feels useless sometimes. But we had a lot of fun decorating the nursery and choosing a pram together and I try to keep him as involved as possible, telling him whenever I feel them moving and he always comes to any doctors appointments I have. What are other people's experiences? Both from the male and female view.

Posted by: Poopypuss4 on 2011-08-19, 05:56:08

I went to every doctor's visit, and did what ever I could, but felt useless too. It's a normal thing for a guy, because we have absolutely no control of the situation. My wife consoled me... yes when I say consoled, I mean made me feel special as only she could.

Posted by: Ryde On on 2011-08-19, 06:02:06

Http:/ / search.yahoo.com/ search?p= Pregnancy+ + and+ psychosis &fr= ush-ans &ygmasrchbtn= Web+ Search Take a look at some of these studies and remember them when you start complaining about how horrible he is treating you. It's not his hormones that are out of whack.

Posted by: punkin on 2011-08-19, 06:04:19

I know its very hard but you need to take time every once in a while to try and completely forget that the babies are coming. Our fear that we won't be prepared when they get here makes us obsessed with getting things ready. In reality their isnt enough stuff in the world you can buy or books you can read that will prepare you, but thats ok cause your gonna be just find when they come. Focus your energy on him make sure he knows although your about to be a mom you are first and foremost a wife and always will be!!!! Touch, kiss, pet, pleasure him I know its hard when your that uncomfortably pregnant but its a must!!!! Men feel connected through physical touch!!! And make sure you communicate to him that you understand hes going through all this too. Hes spent all this time calming you down telling you its gonna be okay he needs you to do the same for him hes scared and nervous too. and he needs someone to acknowledge what hes going through and keep telling him you know its not easy being the husband of a pregnant woman, but that hes doing a GREAT job! let him know you appreciate all the midnight runs for ice cream all the hours waiting in the doctors offices etc. Appreciate Touch comfort. Good luck!!!!