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Question: What would you do if your husband wants to leave you in your third trimester?

(Posted by: Tasha on 2006-05-23 17:42:44)

For the record I am working full- time doing overtime, paying more than half the bills and I make sure I remain pretty even though I am tired.

Posted by: Traci M on 2006-05-23, 18:01:50

Tasha, Without a doubt, that is a tough pill to swallow. This would have to be the worst time for someone you obviously love so much to just turn their back on you and leave you. One thing is for sure, He is not the man you probably thought he was and by leaving, he only proves it. What you need to do first and foremost, being a woman and a soon to be mother is to not let this situation bother you to the point were you become ill. If he wants to leave, let him. Honestly, I can't give you the reason situation, no one here can. But, What I can suggest is that from this day forward, You pray yourself thru this. Let me tell you, You can't go wrong with prayer. God will guide you as to what the next best move will be. You will be in my prayers...

Posted by: Chocolate Beauty on 2006-05-23, 17:47:26

Let him leave girl. Depend on your family to help you through.

Posted by: redpeach_mi on 2006-05-23, 17:48:13

First, i'd cry. then i would pick myself up off the floor, realize what a slimy piece of shit he is, and work on starting my life with my soon to be new child. along the way i would talk to a lawyer and think about how much child support i'm going to get him for. you and your child are better off by yourselves than with a guy like that.

Posted by: SaVannah on 2006-05-23, 17:49:03

I'd pack his $hit and tell him that I'll see hi in court.

Posted by: desperatelyseekingAmethyst on 2006-05-23, 17:49:47

That's terrible! take him to the cleaner right away.

Posted by: Crazymomo on 2006-05-23, 17:49:50

I agree with Chocolate Beauty. If he wants to leave, let him go. You'll make it with the help of family and friends. You won't be comfortable with him around now anyways, knowing he wants to leave, or even mentioned it to you. What a jerk

Posted by: smurfette_au2000 on 2006-05-23, 17:50:40

Let him leave. You don't need him in your life. You and your baby will be fine without him. Your family will support you, and his family will kick his arse.

Posted by: Sgt C on 2006-05-23, 17:50:49

Kick his butt out and make sure he pays child support for 18 yrs

Posted by: lprjohnny on 2006-05-23, 17:50:52

Let his A** go. He is probabley gay. You will find someone that wants to be with you. Just make sure that if he leaves you that he ups to still being a dad. If he doesnt share in the responsibilty as a father make sure that you get him for child support.

Posted by: charlesjerrell on 2006-05-23, 17:53:08

Slap the shit out of him, or atleast into next week

Posted by: anjelkake on 2006-05-23, 17:53:13

There's a lack of information. Are you being a big baby about being pregant and making him suffer? Yes? Maybe you should not complain so much around him and whine, that plays the nerves. No, your not complaining alot? Are you spending alot of money on baby things that you don't really need? Financial factors also stress men out. If your really doing everything right, the problem is that he's scared too. Stop acting like you don't want to walk out that door some days and not come back. Why does he want to leave- Find out first by talking to him. Good luck.

Posted by: lovely lady on 2006-05-23, 17:55:40

Let his sorry a** go. You and your child don't need that type of stress in your life. ( And if you live in TX then send me a message so that I can tell you how to make him pay...and more than just child support.!!!):)

Posted by: soontobefree on 2006-05-23, 18:03:03

You have to show the big baby that he wont be left behind when the baby comes also find away to please him even in you state if not let him know that he not just walking out on you but the baby to and if that don't get him thinking child support will

Posted by: Twinlets on 2006-05-23, 18:07:20

If my husband were to leave me during my third trimester, and right now I'm in my fifth month with twins expected, then he'd get a swift kick to the little area and get shoved out the door. I've got family and friends and a pretty good money making job, but I would go to the courts shortly after doing that. Being a single mom raising a baby isn't easy, and child support is something that you would definetly need, no matter how many hours you work. If you think he's not pulling his part or just not interested in anything about your life together anymore, then he's not important enough to be part of you, and your child's, life.

Posted by: J Thomas on 2006-05-23, 18:12:26

Let him leave. You don't need him in your life. You and your baby will be fine without him. Your family will support you, and his family will kick his ****.

Posted by: cutback on 2006-05-23, 18:17:08

Clean out the bank accounts, sell his car, burn all his clothes, kick him as hard as you can in the balls and throw his sorry ass out of the house.

Posted by: m0mmatcat on 2006-05-23, 18:51:29

Well if you already tried the marriage counceling then I would say good ridence. If he wants to be that low then let him go. Yet there is the baby coming. Of course I don't know why he is leaveing...and some counceling could help you both with that, but if he just has to leave you let him go. Your already self sufficient and beautiful so don't let it get you so down that you forget that. Find good friends and a support group cause your going to need it with all the emotions and a new baby. Im sorry this is happening to you and wish you the best for you and your baby.

Posted by: justcurious on 2006-05-23, 20:50:11

Let him leave, and DO NOT put his name on the birth certificate! Sounds like he would be more hassle than help with the birth of your child. And don't let him get you too upset, because it can actually affect your child dopamine and seratonin levels.

Posted by: older&wiserforit on 2006-05-23, 21:29:58

Let the scum leave. He is scum if he wants to leave you while your pregnant. That's totally cruel.