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Question: *men only* is or was it hard for you to have sex with your wife/girlfriend in the later stage of pregnancy?

(Posted by: on 2011-12-08 11:37:32)

Did you still find her attractive, but found it hard to have sex with her? I am 8 months pregnant and my husband says he still finds me attractive but we are only having sex about once a week when we used to have it like 2- 3 times a week. I can't help to think it has to do with me :0/ He still says he is attracted to me though, but he isn't all over me like he used to be and its kind of messing with my self esteem. I have brought it up numerous times and he assures me I am wrong so I dont want to keep bringing it up and nagging. I don't know I just need some guy point of views for this one. Did you guys go through similar situations???

Posted by: Chris on 2011-12-08, 11:41:57

Me and my girl had the same problem... I just couldn't do it Wasn't that I didn't find her attractive it was just the thought of it that freaked me out.

Posted by: LizB on 2011-12-08, 11:48:53

I'm not a guy, but honestly, once a week is still pretty good. I don't think it has anything to do with how attractive he sees you as being, but rather that he's in serious "protector " mode right now, and protector mode kind of dampens the sex drive. It's one reason married couples have less sex than less committed couples (not making this up, studies have been done on it). Right now you're in the most vulnerable state he's probably ever seen you, so he's more concerned with taking care of you than his sex drive. It'll come back eventually, so be patient and keep lines of communication open. After the baby is born you'll both be exhausted which also kills the sex drive, but if you keep up once a week at least you're doing great.