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Question: I need relationship advice. lying?

(Posted by: Brian S on 2010-09-01 09:26:02)

Ive noticed my girlfriend acting strange the past two weeks or so, she has been less emotionally attached to me it seems. One day while looking at her phone, a text popped up from my best friend. I dont remember what it said at the time, but nothing bad. i just found it weird that my girlfriend and best friend were texting each other, i had no idea. Thoughout the next few days i have found her wandering to his work alot when he is working and texting and talking to him more and more. Last night when she told me she was home doing homework, i found out she was down at the park with a group of my friends. I went down to the park without telling her, just to see what was going on. When i arrived, i saw her and my best friend on the swings together, alone. I called her and asked what she was doing, she now admitted to being down at the park, but insisted she was with a large group of my friends just hanging out. when i could clearly see just 2 people. I was mad at her for being down there with my friend. it is weird to me. Then she told me she was going home. I said goodbye and i watched her leave. At first, she walked up to my best friend and embraced him for at least a minute and a half. then they started walking together to her car. i called her and asked her why he was walking her to her car, she said that he wasnt. then i showed myself to them. I caught her lying to me twice. I walked over to where they were and told my friend to walk away before i hurt him. then i kicked a trashcan over. After all this, neither of them say that anything was happening unusual. My question to you is, did i do something wrong? Am i just being over- protective? Should i give her another chance? Him? She has lied to me before about similar matters. I feel depressed and cant eat or sleep. i stayed home from school today so i didnt have to see either of them. I am a 17 year old male. Please help me.. Thank you everyone for the advice and support!

Posted by: Stacie T on 2010-09-01, 09:34:32

I think she is trying to see how much she can get away with, with you. My advice would be to not let her. Once you stand your ground, she will not continue to lie to you. If I were you, I would just break up with her. You are very young and have a lot of life experiences ahead of you. You will meet someone that treats you like you deserve to be treated. If she tries to get back together, then let her come back with some ground rules. She will need to really be transparent and not try to hide anything from you. As for your friend, it depends on how long you have been his friend, I guess. I would probably not hang out with him anymore. Friends don't do that kind of stuff to each other. You need to be prepared that if you break up with her, then those two might get together without sneaking around. If that's the case, it won't be long before she does the same thing to him. I know it's very hard, as it is heartbreaking. When I was 17, I didn't see beyond the next week, but I promise you it does get better. 10 years from now, you will look back and you won't believe that you put up with this at all.

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Posted by: Nick Heartman on 2010-09-01, 09:32:14

No dude. I know what youre going through. Over protective would be if she was telling the truth and you knew where she was and what she was doing all the time and you still flipped. The fact that youve been lied to is sickening. I cant say for sure if anythings goin on but id tell your girl to stay away from him and if you catch them together just leave her. THis is absolutly stupid.

Posted by: Kaylakintoxic. on 2010-09-01, 09:33:09

Right, so first of all, if i went down to the park with my boyfriends mates then i would properly be asking them what he likes for like a surprise of some sort, But i don't know, Wait a week, if she's still doing it Dump her, don't talk to her about it because then you can catch her and it'll be done with, I know this is not what you want to hear but you should move on to someone..more faithful, All the faithful girls go out with unfaithful boys, and all the faithful boys go out with the unfaithful girls, and sadly your the faithful one with the unfaithful one, ask your friends what she's been doing, then it might not be so bad, You'll be okay, Good Luck Honey <3 Also, please don't hurt yourself, self harm does not help, So good luck <3

Posted by: Rebecca on 2010-09-01, 09:33:13

It sounds like she's just a player and is fucking with you and your friend. It sounds really harsh, but dude, she keeps lieing straight to your face, you even said it. You shouldn't even be on yahoo asking this question. You know the answer already. Something weird is clearly going on between your girlfriend and your best friend. Don't let her lie to you like this. You accept the love you think you deserve. She's treating you like shit. And you're best friend isn't much of a best friend either ftw. Good luck with this.