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Question: Help i need relationship advice!?

(Posted by: DoYouBeliveInFate? on 2010-03-07 16:53:42)

Hi im a 18yr old male i got real bad problem, well ive been with my girlfriend for over 1yr and 5months and within 2 months of our relationship i kissed 5 other girls on a night out, i was a real arsewhole but i didn love he at this point just liked her. well i didnt tell her what hapend i just forgot bout it nd it didnt bother me but now i love her the whole world shes my everything the only girl wo keeps me together, ive never felt this way about anyone before, its amazing but i remembered what happend then and im constantly filled with this guilt especially since shes alswys nice to me and loves me immensly. i want to tell her but i dont want to break her heart just to make me feel better i love her too much to do that. but i have people saying just respect her and tell her. i just dont no what to do. after i had kissed those girls (never slept with any of them or any other girl) about a week later we broke up for other issues then we got back together 2 days later. i have well and truly learnt my lesson. but i no if i tell her there is NO chance she will take me back, god im an ********. i think im guna live with the guilt as a punishment for what ive done, and she will stay happy like she deserves. but i mean over the last week ive cryed every night over this and wen im with her and see her smiling it just destroys me, im so depressed its unbearable, the guilt is eating me. will the guilt of this eventually go with time or will it haunt me to the grave. because i mean i can bearly rememer it happening at all i just feel guilty and depressed i really need some words of advice thanx.

Posted by: lizzielou14 on 2010-03-07, 16:57:52

Well... Based on experience, I think you should tell her. The longer you wait, the more it'll hurt her. Once you tell her, give her a little time to accept it. She'll come back to you in no time.

Posted by: Rebecca on 2010-03-07, 17:02:17

Calm down. You're young, when you first got together you'd be 16/ 17. Face it; we all make mistakes and chances are you've changed since then and aren't the little boy you once were. Move on and forget it, don't tell her, it'll cause unnecessary upset now and it's all in the past. You feel guilty, understandably, but if you know deep down you've changed, that it was a mistake you'd never make again and that you love her move on for her sake, so that you can be happy together without the pain.