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Question: What are your thoughts on this relationship advice?

(Posted by: seriously101 on 2010-03-04 09:21:38)

So, I was listening to the radio and they were saying if you are over the age of 25 and you have been dating someone for 2 years and you haven't gotten a proposal yet to be married that you should end the relationship and move on. What are your thoughts on that?

Posted by: CommonSense 101 on 2010-03-04, 09:26:02

That is the stupidest thing i have heard. It depends on the relationship.

Posted by: [~4WARD~] on 2010-03-04, 09:22:54

That there is no set relationship advice. Every relationship and situation is different. There are no rules that apply to all.

Posted by: azgoddess on 2010-03-04, 09:25:56

There is no time frame on dating, getting a proposal nor when to get married. Everyone is different and all relationships don't fit into one mold. If two people are happy together and learning about each other - it is no one else's business what they do with their lives. They will work it out for themselves.

Posted by: Clayton W on 2010-03-04, 09:26:19

I think that's a skewed view of the world. The average age of the first marriage is going up. 2/ 3rds of marriages end in divorce. Every person, every couple, every situation is different. There can't be any hard and fast rules, because rules are made to be broken.

Posted by: anna on 2010-03-04, 09:27:43

That depends on hw many dates you have been with the same girl and hw much you guys are into also by simply looking at the time period u have been in a relationship never helps you to figure out if your ready for commitment good luck

Posted by: Riley's Mummy on 2010-03-04, 09:30:00

I think that is alot of nonsense, I am 31 and my boyfriend of 4 years is 39 and we have a gorgeous 1 year old son, we are very happy the way we are and we know that we love one another and will get married one day but what is the hurry. If its not broken then why fix it.

Posted by: Suzy39 on 2010-03-04, 09:41:00

I knew a lady that waited for fifteen years. Now, I'm not saying that's what you should do but it is up to the couples to know when they're ready. There are so many things to consider when thinking about marriage. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years but 2 of those years were long distance. We want time to further discover each other before making that type of commitment. For some people it could be that going to school or advancing their career is more important at that stage in their life. Family obligations and religious beliefs also factor in. It sounds like you may be ready but not your partner. You need to ask yourself why you need marriage. Is it because of the commitment factor or do you want to start a family? Be sure of yourself and your needs before you approach your partner. Then sit down with your partner in a non-confrontational manner (like over dinner at a restaurant) and mention that you heard this on the radio and it got you to thinking about it. That you might like to take it to the next level and what do they think. You might be surprised to find out that your partner is not interested in marriage or children and just likes the companionship. Maybe they have worries about divorce because or previous experience or exposure from their childhood. If they are not willing to work on making the relationship permanent, you then have to make a decision based on what you need. If you are definitely thinking marriage and it is a high priority for you, you might want to consider taking a break from them. Sometimes this will make them re-consider their priorities. Maybe you're more important to them then they thought. Or you could simply move on. Just make sure that this is what YOU want before you making any life altering decision based on a radio show snippet. Good luck.