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Need Relationship advice...(the big L word!)?
So my bf and i have only been dating for 6 months but feelings developed pretty strong pretty fast. About 3 4 months in we were a little buzzed...not drunk...and we both said that we loved eachother without actually saying " i love you" he said he wanted it go be special when he said it the first time. Well a few months later still no i love you. We went on a camping trip and he got pretty drunk and accidentally said i love you he remembers saying it too . Obviously he didnt want that,to be the moment so he said he wanted to be sober and make it special i want it to be said sober too lol . Well that was a little over a month ago. Our six month anniversary just came up and we went on a really cute date but he still didnt say it and it hasnt really been brought up since the camping trip......what do you guys think is up w this? we r 24 and 25 years old btw ....im only his second real gf.
Relationship advice??? (the lack of relationships to be more correct)?
I feel so depressed. Im 19, almost 20, and ive never been in a real relationship. I know im still young but i feel like ill never have anyone. I feel like i look for love in everyone i meet. Ive always been afraid of rejection so I never say anything if i do like a guy. I wait and hope they will speak up if they like me. I just feel like ill be alone forever. Does anyone else feel like this? if i ever do find someone, do you think they will be put off by the fact that ive never been in a relationship?I just dont want to be one of those people who never get married.
Need genuine relationship advice (the end is nigh)?
Say you've known a girl for 3 years. Say when you met this girl she neglected to tell you that she was married to a man deployed in Iraq. Say you fell in love with this girl and would do anything for her. Say after months with her she grows cold and distant and in your delusions you fail to realize what's really going on. When she tells you she has to distance herself from you to " prepare" for her husband coming home it fails to hit home and so you torture yourself waiting for her. Say you finally get the balls to end what should have stopped months in advance. Say you never get over loving this girl and stay in contact off and on for the next two years. Now she comes back to you and you start talking more and more turns out she moved home 2000 miles away and with this safety net you begin talking again and reconnect over all the points that went wrong before. Her husband was abusive and she " never" really loved him. They got a divorce and it was finalized she's only 21 at this point . So now there is nothing in the way and the feelings from all those years ago erupt and overwhelm you and now you talk to her each and every moment you can spare and you grow deeper and closer to her than you ever have before. You're not some dumb kid anymore you've been through it with other girls, but they never seemed to hit as close to home as she does. Now you start to forget the betrayals and everything starts to mesh together. You fall in love but the truth is you never fell out. Finally when the fear melts from your heart and trust begins to take hold she tells you, " I'm coming back for a week before going off to another college on the east coast" . You're ecstatic and you can't wait to see this girl of your dreams again, all the good times blot out everything wrong that had happened. But then she tells you....she'd contracted HSV 2...you are crestfallen absolutely decimated but you hold that back to be strong for a woman going through hell. You tdo hold it back and you make her feel beautiful anyway, but in your mind the danger begins to scrape at the walls of your mind, an itching fear that grows ever more prevalent with each word spoken between you. But you decide to take a chance, albeit a stupid one, and go out with her. You tell yourself it doesn't matter because people do crazy things for love so you go out and have the best of your life and it ends in a perfect moment. Yes you have sex with her and now the fear settles in again. You wait months and months and speak to her each and everyday not mentioned your absolute fear for what you have done. Months pass and the tests say it's negative. But in these months you've grown so close to this woman, she depends on you even if she's 3000 miles away. She is so in love, it's different from before, she comes to you, she writes you poems, she sends you dirty messages and she sets aside anything to talk to you. This treatment is wonderful, but the lingering notion that you'd be stamped forever begins to take hold the longer you're apart. Now the dreams and goals you hold in life could be affected by any further forays into that world. Now you sit with a $400 dollar plane ticket 2 weeks before you're supposed to go have the best week of your life in another city with the woman you love. But you can't help mousing over the change booking button.....Her life is in shambles and you are the glue, you know without you as she is now she would crumble. Any mention that you do not love her would absolutely crush her and throw her into a tail spin. It may not be your duty to hold her up, but you feel good doing it.....So what would you do Yahoo Answers?I'll be specific since you would rather throw out condescending statements like " so i'm confused" .I was 19 when I met her, a virgin, she invited me over to her place and sat me on her couch. I had never been with a girl and was about as innocent as a boy could a late bloomer of sorts . She rocked my world and I fell in love hard. Once I was deeply attached, waiting on her hand and foot, she broke news that she was actually married months into our adventures . Before that I just assumed she was another college student lived in an apartment with a female roommate . There were no pictures of the man and when she brought it up it was deemed a " paper marriage" between friends so they could reap the military benefits of a spouse. She never indicated they had a sexual relationship, but of course I wasn't dense enough to believe that. When she broke the news I was crushed and in my 19 year old wisdom I was unable to let her go. I didn't care about a man I thought I'd never meet, n
Relationship advice - the silence during a fight kills me.?
We ve been married for four months now.When my husband is displeased with me for some reason, he retreats into his shell and never tells me what bothers him. And we mostly fight on a weekend because of seeing the other person too much I guess. So almost every weekend, I am grounded.I stay at home, we have only one car, and I don t have a license yet.I am totally dependent on him for taking me out, and even for driving lessons. So I keep waiting for the weekend so that we can go someplace nice, and then he gets displeased for some petty thing, and isn t in the mood, and we stay at home.Staying at home alone will be easier than staying with a silent person with a sad face.There s mostly no way I can reach out to him, except if I cry and he comes to console me, and then the fight is over. I ve seen this pattern of fight,cry,makeup in my friends marriages too, but it doesn t work for me. I don t want to manipulate by crying, and I ve been traumatised in the past, so crying doesn t make me feel good as it normally should. Years back when I cried to sleep, I woke up feeling a lot better, serotonin hormone I guess . But now crying makes me depressed, and near suicidal, I don t ever want to cry.He s watching a movie in the other room, its midnight, and I can t sleep. Lying down triggers tears, so I m sitting in a yoga posture and trying to meditate. Its been too long since I ve meditated, and its hard, but anything to avoid lying down and crying myself into a coma.Can you help me reach out to him? And to feel better in the middle of a fight? I keep saying positive affirmations like I m a good person etc, they don t seem to help much.Our sex life is good, he enjoys it more than me, and I'm okay with that.Trouble 11668, your answers make a lot of sense to me, thanks. I already knew some of the stuff, but thanks for the pointers to the websites. I needed some solid material and you provided it.By the way, we've actually come down to fighting alternate weeks, so one week we roam all over the place, and the next week he is no mood to drive. I guess I can keep asking him to plead, blackmail etc , but I do not like that stuff, and my reticence actually makes me grounded I guess. I've told him about feeling grounded during the last fight, so I guess he realises he can hurt me quite well this way...Thanks for all the advice. I need my sleep now, and am going to turn in.I need to work on my self esteem known that for a long time, but my progress is slow .This is a sleepy town, and distractions are very less, I know very few neighbors, and I wouldnt want to disturb married couples on a weekend, but the cookie baking idea is good.And no, am not broken hearted, just finding it hard to handle the moment.
Relationship advice (the start)?
So im not good with starting relationships. there is a girl i really like and i have been talking to her every once in a while. I cant really ask her out on a real date or anything because of certain circumstances that cannot be fixed. It seems like she might be interested, but im not sure.1. What are ways to tell she is interested too, things I could do to see, signs, etc...2. What is the next step? What are some ideas for things to ask her to do if so?Please answer one or both.
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