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Relationship advice: How do I really feel about her at this point and what should I do?
Ive been with my LDR girlfriend for 41 2 months now. Its my first real relationship and the longest one at that. We have lots of things in common and yeah we do run out of stuff to say on the phone but thats okay cuz we always start talking again. We trust each other. We dont lie to each other, we never gotten into a big fight or nothing like that. we can tell each other everything. We still think about each other all day lol. we have such a wonderful time when we are together and when its time for me to go we always get that sad feeling. Its the most perfect relationship but i keep doubting it.i do that with everything.Im starting to think that shes the one for me because we have the same interests and want a good future and from the stuff that ive told you and we have no drama whatsoever. ive even thought about us living together, family and where we'll be at in two years.now i think i doubt myself about if shes the one because i think im thinking too fast and need to slow it down and wait for some more months to be sure. now i think its love because i definately know its not lust. i mean yeah i wouldnt mind $& you know. but i told her that that really didnt matter to me as long as i had her. Now me on the other hand, ive not had many relationships in my life so ive been used to being alone and only worrying about me. im 18 btw and you can say im selfish a little cuz i always want my way. guess cuz im an only child. Ive read that its normal to feel like you dont love the person ur with but you know you do when in a LDR. also when youve " settled down" too. you leave the fantasy stage. Now me only thinking about me and not really caring whats going on with the other person is getting to me because i want to care for her and always be there for her. especially because she told me im everything shes been searching for her whole life. and i want to continue being that person. Im also going through something like dealing with neg. thoughts about everyday life and now shes included in there too and that hurts me deep. i know not to let the thoughts get to me but its hard. so you can kind of guess what they tell me. and i told her and she was saying " what does your heart say?" and i said idk. cuz i dont know the diff. from listening to my mind or my heart. And everybody is telling me to stay with her because things are going so good. And i also feel like i can never handle a relationship and this is the best one and i know if shes gone, i cant handle it. So is it love that i feel? because im never sure of my feelings and this is the first time ive experienced something like this , how can I stop thinking about myself and care for her cuz shes the best thing to come in my life, and how can i cope with these neg. thoughts and continue to have a wonderful relationship? thanks for any feedback guys
What do I do! ): Relationship advice...how to fix this stupid mistake?
I over reacted at a picture my boyfriend's friend posted he tagged me and my boyfriend in it . In and of itself it could be deemed harmless, I guess. It was basically a little Mario straddling a Yoshi while flailing his butt at the viewer. Apparently the Yoshi thing is an inside joke between them, and after my boyfriend told me what his friend had said about it I realize I shouldn't have gotten upset about it. I acknowledge this and I feel really bad about getting angry, not knowing any background info I saw it as disrespectful and rude and texted my bf about it. Thing is, my boyfriend got extremely mad and immediately told off his friend who had apparently meant nothing by it. I had let him know a few minutes after the first text that I had calmed down and everything was okay, so when he later told me he felt like the a hole who got mad at his friend just because his gf overreacted I told him it wasn't my fault he got mad so quickly and didn't talk to me about it properly before going off. WELL apparently this meant I didn't appreciate what he had done, and things escalated to where he had to get off the phone to compose himself before he started yelling at me we are both a little hotheaded when we argue . I had apologized as many times as I could, I even offered to contact the friend and try to mend things but he refused and told me to stay out of it. I was crying when we hung up. Now I'm waiting for him to call me again. I don't know what else to say besides that I'm sorry. I know I jumped to conclusions, but I don't know his friend personally I have never even talked to him and from what I hear he's a pretty vulgar and obnoxious person. Also, if my parents had seen it they would have flipped.
Relationship advice: how do you open up to somebody?.?
ok ive been going out with my boyfriend for 4 months everythings going good we dont really argue just have good times but how do i open up to him? how DO you open up period? i want him to be able to come to me when hes feeling down and needs someone to talk to and the same with me but whenever i try to take it to the next level in our communication i get stuck. any advice? thank you
Relationship advice? How do i stop being clingy?
So things between me and this guy didn't really work out. I was too clingy. I know i am, and i over analyze everything he tells me. And does. Like if he said he was tired and wanted to go to sleep I would over think it and assume he didn't want to talk to me It's a horrible habit. And it happened a lot. But he's giving me another shot and I want to change that about me. ow do i stop myself from always looking at my phone to see if he's called or texted? The main question i guess would be How do i stop myself from being so clingy?
Relationship advice- How to get her back?
I've been dating this girl for two years now, she was a freshman and i was a junior when we started dating it was the first real relationship for both of us. we did everything together talked all day everyday, we were eachothers first for everything. about a year into our relationship we were fighting alot but i figured it was bound to happen sometime because we only spend time with eachother and we always text nonstop. so we had broken up and i let her do her thing because she had never really been single and gone and experienced stuff with her friends so i understood. she was flirting around with some guy for a while but nothing came of it, they kissed once and she quickly came running back 2 months after being broken up. she told me during that time that she didnt love me anymore and it was over for good, i was really hurt, but when she came back to me i made her work for trust and we were fine again, we were so happy all year my senior year everything was normal. i seemed to get caught up in being a senior and wanted to spend time with these ppl that i may never see again and she didnt like that i was putting her aside for once but put up with it for a while, i graduated and its summer and everything was great until she started hanging out with her one friend every single day instead of me and had been ditching me to do other things. i quickly got irritated and suspicious because she had also been hanging out with this guy from another school she randomly met. which is not normal and raised an eyebrow because she never wanted to talk to other guys she was always about only me. then she broke up with me two weeks ago for " not trusting her" twice in that week after we broke up she had said sorry said she wanted to make things better and then ditched me, twice she did this. i got fed up and told her i wasnt going to talk to her ever again if this is how its going to be. she told me she still loves me and she wants to keep talking to me because she cant be happy without me in her life but doesnt want to be with me again because she needs to be fully trusted. when she been going on ddates with this kid from another school saying they are just friends. i happen to be friends with someone close to her and found out that theyve been " talking" for a while. i have not talked to her in a week shes texted me twice but ive ignored it but i met her at her work this morning and she told me they are " talking " like flirting and stuff. we kissed and i told her i cant talk to her or see her anymore if this is how its going to be. i love this girl so so much i know it sounds stupid because we are young bbut she is everything to me and ill do anything for her. i just need her back.. i know she doesnt deserve me with the way shes treating me now but when we are good we are great and i just feel like we are going through different changes at different times and its hard for relationships to work throughh that so im keeping an open mind... what i want to know is that would not talking to her or seeing her and ignoring her be the best way to get her to realize she messed up and wants me back? or would still talking to her and being her friend be better? although that would seem to prolong this situation. im sorry this is so long, im just a little desperateyeah but if i still talk to her shes still going to be " talking" to this guy.. it sucks. i dont know what will get her back
Relationship advice...how to win girl back??? any help pleaseeee?
Im a freshman in college 6 hours from my hometown. About a year ago, one of my friends was involved with a girl who is now a senior in high school. throughout their breakup, i was like the middleman. unfortunately, they ended it in january, but me and her kept talking because we are coworkers. All along i told her to make a decision regarding her ex my friend . because she stayed in the middle of liking him but not going back with him. eventually, she started tin june rying to get me to hang out and I refused daily requests from March until Late June. it developed from online to texting, and the occasional short phone call. one night we hung out bc she said she was in trouble, and we kissed, and since then we have kept a secret relationship of sorts, without it ever being official. we hung out the majority of the summer, and when i left for college it sorta ended, but we kept talking on the phone and texting constantly. she also still sometimes got with her ex, my friend. we had one break where we hung out alot and in the following month she begged me to be with her as a couple, but i refused because it would be frowned upon by my social group. so she tried and tried and i told her it was bc her ex. so i went home for thanksgiving and she told me we should be friends, but we hung out all week and kissed and more, but everytime when i left she would say just friends...very confusing. now I want to be with her because I realized shes more important to me than my friends opinions, but she told me she wont be with me because she still ahs feelings for her ex, the one i told her to make a decision on 6 months ago. I need help on how to get her back ? ? ?
Relationship advice? How to get my gf to listen?
Don't get me wrong, I love my girlfriend very much, we live together and most of the time things are really good. But I think that there are a few things that have to change and I want to know if I am right or if i'm just being an ass. First off, I don't mind when she goes out with her friends, it's just that more often than not they choose to go to a bar that I think is full of sketchy people, and due to a few incidents that I was even there for things at that place have almost gotten out of hand. But if I ask her if she wouldnt mind choosing somwhere else to go with her friends, that apparently makes me controlling. Is that really controlling to say " yes you can go out, but i'm not comfortable with that place?" She does it anyway so I don't see how that is controlling....The second thing is the double standards. She seems to be allowed to talk to guys that she knows have a thing for her, even if they have been friends for awhlie, and she still talks to the guy that took her virginity, and that's all supposed to be ok, but if a female friend of mine so much as likes a fb status I have then she's a slut and i should not talk to her. WTF ? any good advice on how to get her to see she's being a hypocrite?
Relationship advice...how to handle a situation?
Ok so i visit my mom who lives an hour away from time to time. i usually go on a friday evening and return monday morning back to my boyfriends and mines house. when i got back monday the house was a disaster...dishes piled high..dried food on stove...beer boxes on the floor..just nasty and dirty. i said wow what a mess..he said what its only a few dishes....yeah right. he said hed clean it in the morning. he was gonna go to bed soon cuz he works tonight. he wanted me to come to bed but i said im cleaning up cuz i cant stand the mess. i felt like going off and saying u lazy a hole u had 4 days off and couldnt clean up ur own mess. u want ur pregnant girlfriend to clean up ur nasty mess. but i didnt say all that. he went to bed and i cleaned but i was thinking about just leaving it but i cant live in filth. it was nasty. i just feel disrespected. i wouldnt have left the mess and been ok with him cleaning it. am i being upset over nothing? i didnt say all this to him cuz hed just say i was bitching over nothing
Relationship advice - how to keep my girlfriend happy, and not endanger our relationship ?
relationship advice how to keep my girlfriend happy, and not endanger our relationship ?My girlfriend and I have a wonderful happy relationship and life is just great. We also respect each other and just love being together.She recently admitted that for years she has someimes fantasized about being with two men and She admits she would love to try it.I have agreed, and we will meet up with someone we are not involved with emotionally, and who has been tested recently. No further contact after that, and also in another part of the country.I want her to have a special experience but want to be sure that our relaationship is not endangered in any way.Do you have any well.meant tips for us to avoid any pitalls?? we have agreed it will be a one off and i know my girlfriend will ensure thisYes i am absolutely 100 % Ok with the arrangement. I want her to be happy
Relationship advice, how do i man up?
I am 23 old male and have been walked all over and hurt in my last 3 relationships because I am a little bit of an ocd possesive boyfriend type, well in the past ayways. I met a girl, we have been dating a year, we have a 5 week old babygirl....I figured the myth that since women like bad boys and assh i figured i would try being a hard and act like i do not care even though i am the over sensitive, romantic, mushy, loving type of guy Just so happens that when I met this 21 year old female she was getting out of a very hurtful relatonship where her ex was very rugged with her, beat her, and this is when she relaized she didnt want to ever end up with a guy like that.....so she moved in wth me for close to 4 months while pregnant, and when she was living with me i wasnt really my self. I felt i sort of " had her" since she was living with me and i tried being somebody i wasnt. in return she thought it was her and i thought it was me, so the affection stopped, and i kind of turned on her,hanging out with my nephew alot, he wasover for like a week straight. i love her to death but we got in an argument, and felt used so i kicked her out 4 months before she gave birth. i explained i was truly sorry, and i wasnot myself. she said i needed to man up and show her how much i loved her. she moved back to her dads so when i would go over there to try showing her the person she fell in love with in the beginning and i felt no affection, and felt she just didnt want me in her life. so i put my foot down and started thinking im not gonna put my all in for someone who is very confused and doesnt know if they want to be with me. she felt confuzed cause she didnt know why i couldnt man up. so i found her texting her best friend whos a guy, they were joking about sexual stuff which i know they were but i got bent out of shape and stopped talking to her. she said she knew i was really mad so she got ahold of me and said me and the baby are moving in. i said i feel yournot blah blah blah, she said yeah this saturday was supposed to she gave me 2 weeks so this past week we have been great, tons of love, affection, we joke and call eachother wifey n hubby, things are back to the way they used to be. well she called me lastnight and she doesnt get along with my family,so my niece n nephew were over, which she knew but when i called her before bed i lied to her and said i dropped them off when she knew i was lieing, i admit. i got nervous and uptight. now she thinks im going to go back to my old ways so she isnt moving in this saturday, she said she definitely is moving back in but she wants to know she has a man who loves her, respects her decisions, and she doesnt want me to just be a great man because she gave me a deadline of when she was moving back, which i understand. she felt i was putting on an act until saturday then i would go back to my old ways. thats not the fact, she said she loves me, wants to be with me forever, but i need advice. right now i have been going to her dads before and after work, but i am very insecure, i obsess alot and i constantly think about her all the time. we want a future together, but i told her i would put my all in and b c she said she isnt moving in this saturday i said i respected her decision and said i love her and will do anything for her, she said thats all she needed to hear. so i will continue to do what i have been doing and hope she really loves meback. im very imptient and want things to happen now. i cant focus on my job, i had my hopes up , but i understand where shes comming from. she wants to make sure im not puttin on an act. she wants me to man up, what does that mean and what can i do to not be annoying, but show her shes my world?
Really need some first relationship advice? how do i ignore the haters?
so after so many months my crush and i are not together we're 15 and have been for a few days now, however i noticed he's been getting a lot of negative attentention about me being like his 94th girlfriend sarcastic of course i know he's known as a playerbut i really like him and he's beyond sweet to me all the timeand like i already said i really like himi just hope i'm not getting played anyway, how can i ignore all the negative things getting said?it's getting me really down
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