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What is the best marriage advice you can give?
I like this one someone told me Just touch his toes with your toes.Meaning When you are in bed together, reach over and touch his toes with your toes. You will start to feel so much love for this person laying beside you and gratitude for him being there. And this gratitude is what gets you through the hard parts, and to see the bigger picture without sweating the small stuff.What is the best marriage advice someone told you?
Why do divorced people give out so much marriage advice?
It seems to me that a lot of people here, and even in person, are quick to give marriage advice, even when they are divorced. If I were divorced, I would shut my mouth or say something like, " I am the wrong person to ask." I have only known one man to do this. Obviously, if you are divorced, sorry, but your marriage failed and your advice will probably match. I find most divorced people are bitter or not very forgiving, generally stubborn. All traits that led them to divorce that most do not end up fixing.
I need some marriage advice please. I am 25 and just got married TWO months ago and I am absolutely miserable,?
more then I think I have ever been before. I have been with him for almost two years and he has always worked minimum wage jobs and had a hard time sticking with one so we decided that he would start school because he always wanted to be a stylist and I would do my online college I have been doing and work my job to support us on one income we are living with my family as well. Anyways, I found out I was pregnant getting back from the honeymoon and we miscarried last week. I am so sad inside and my husband is oblivious. He knows what I am going through with everything and all he ever cares about is school and all the girls there. Everytime I talk to him he relates whatever I say to something a girl said that day and he never spends time with me where I feel like he is actually my husband anymore. I do get jealous about him being with all these girls all day then going to bed or playing xbox all night right when he gets home and he gets mad at me for being jealous. All we do is fight now and like I said even date nights all he does is talk about what everyone he knows is doing and how he wants me to be friends with them all so we can all go out and to top it off, his bf at school happens to be a girl that was a really mean co worker to me years back. Should married life be like this two months in?? We were so happy before all this. I am crying every day, I am becoming distant from him and I don't know how to fix this. Please give advice ...
I need some marriage advice?
my wife and I have been married for a few months now. Not that age has anything to do with it but I'm 23 and she is 25. She is in the Army Reserves. I stay at home and take care of the house. She is to deploy is 64 days. We have been having issues with her taking too many pills. She has agreed to talk to someone. Since we have been together she has had some attitude issues. She's very blunt and can sometimes be harsh with her worlds. I love her very much and wouldn't change a thing about her. My friend keeps putting all these things in my head... Telling me I deserve better and she can't understand why I love her. I agree she has some issues but don't think I should give up on her or leave her. I made a vow to love her no matter what. Should I tell my friend to screw off or end things with my wife?
Would you take marriage advice from a therapist who is getting divorced?
or would you prefer to talk to one with a long, lasting marriage? Should their personal situation matter or not?
I desperately need marriage advice (and, honestly, a little venting)?
I m very unhappy in my marriage and don t know what to do. I have a 1 year old son. I really want to have 1 more child, but am afraid if I leave my husband, I won t be able to do that because I m 37 years old. The chances of me getting re married again in time to have another child is pretty slim. I have REALLY been trying to make my marriage work, but I m so unhappy. At the end of the work day, I always start getting anxiety symptoms, and I think it s because I dread going home and being with my husband, because I m always afraid I m going to do something wrong and make him mad at me. He is often really rude and disrespectful to me, and verbally abusive never physical . He calls me names, tells me I m stupid, and talks to me really condescendingly. Before we married, I stressed to him that I wanted an equal partnership in marriage, and to share responsibilities equally too, since I would also be working. He totally agreed, but after we married, he told me he didn t have to lie and pretend anymore, and that I have the vagina, he has the penis, therefore I do the household chores, and that he s the man and I need to do what he says. I wish I had divorced then, but my family would have freaked because they are really religious and don t believe in divorce, so I tried to make it work. My work day commute is from 7 30am until 6 30pm. My husband s work day is from 10am to 5 30pm, yet I have to do all the household chores cooking errands, except for taking out the trash recycling and mowing the lawn. I always do what he says. The only thing I ve deliberately not obeyed is when he wanted to have a threesome with another woman. But, sometimes he will tell me to do something, and I honestly forget to do it it just slipped my mind, and I didn t disobey on purpose. He ll say, you need to learn to listen to me and do what I f n say , and that bothers me so much and makes me feel so belittled. It makes me so angry. Would that make you angry, or do you think it is his right that I should obey him because he has authority over me, being the man?Does anyone have advice? I desperately want another child, and I know if I leave him now, I will never have another. I don t know what to do I used to think I would just stay with him until my children are grown because I don t want them to grow up in a broken home , but I just don t know how I ll be able to live like this, for that long. Am I being unreasonable with being upset at the way I m treated? My Aunt told me I am, and that many women have it much worse than me, and I should just suck it up and learn to deal and stay with him. My mother is encouraging me also to just deal and not divorce, and that maybe he ll change , and at least he doesn t beat me ..I have seen a counselor by myself, but my husband refuses to go.Thank you everyone for taking the time to answer. My family will just be SO mad at me for divorcing...and my mom and aunt tell me that all men are like this, so there's no reason to divorce. I'm so tempted to believe them because ALL of my friends who are married are treated very similar by their husbands. Also, I've only have 5 relationships in my life I tend to have very long relationships many years , and ALL 5 of those men have treated me similar. I know I must just have tragic taste in men, and a knack for picking out men like that....but my friends husbands are so similar, and they even talk to their wives like that in front of other people. My husband never does in front of others, he always waits until it's just us two. Luckily, he doesn't do it anymore in front of our son, as I actually, for once, stood up to him about letting our son see him do that to me, but he won't just stop all together.
Seeking marriage advice...?
I've been married for 22 years. We have 3 boys together. For our entire marriage, I have been the breadwinner. I don't hold a degree, but I have worked at the same company for 25 years. My husband holds 2 degrees and has worked at his company for 23. I'm paid well for what I do, but my husband is not. I make nearly twice as much as he does and I have all of the benefits. His pay has not increased in nearly 7 years, he's in management, however, he's making as much as he would if he worked at McDonald's entry level. I've been " cheerleader" from the get go. " How can I help you find something else?" I've helped him with his resume, sent it to places, opened accounts, given several attaboys, etc. He still just stays where he's at, comes home and complains daily and is generally a bear to live with. He's miserable but does nothing about it. Now he's working with a career counselor, but he's spinning his wheels. I've stayed out of it completely because I felt I was probably enabling his behavior of not searching for something. We've been to marriage counseling as his negativity, anger issues, and his infidelity online got the best of me. He's never hit me, but there is something negative about EVERYTHING. I can't even tell him if I got a raise or if something positive happened at work. " Yah well, enjoy it while you can because you know they'll probably pile more on now." Everything is negative. After being with our marriage counselor for 3 months, it became apparent to the counselor that my husband needed to attend counseling alone for awhile. My husband went, but would never share what they discussed and I never pressed. But it came to a stop. I inquired with the counselor and was basically told my husband was nonresponsive in therapy and until he decides to participate, this was going no where. I feel like I'm in limbo. I've suggested he get his testosterone checked it's fine. I've suggested he speak with our doctor about possible depression he refuses. He says my answer to everything is pills a couple of our kids are ADHD and against his judgement, are on meds . In the meantime, I have to juggle money CONSTANTLY we have JUST enough money to pay bills, but no money for social things, extras, or savings, etc , explain to my kids when my husband calls them names like " stupid" or " idiot" that he doesn't really mean it, he's just upset with the situation. I find that I am no longer sharing things I don't need to for fear of him bringing me down. I can't seem to respond to him sexually, which is just frustrating him further and quite frankly, IIIIIII don't even care. I don't want it. At all. Not even a little. I don't even want to be touched. If I were to kick him out, I fear for my kids. They'll have to go with him on visits and the older two would just prefer to have nothing to do with him although they need male guidance. Although if we stay together, I'm still afraid of what all of this negativity is going to do to them. I don't feel they know what a real, loving marriage is like and quite honestly, I don't either In my heart of hearts, I believe him to be a good person. He helps around the house. He fixes things. He likes to cook not the best of dishes...ha . He's giving to others. But at home with all the doors closed, we're miserable. Does ANYONE have any happy endings to a story like this??
I need marriage advice from an Army NCO?
My fiance and I are getting married sept. 7th while I am on leave after completing AIT. He just finished AIT and is now stationed at Ft. Carson, Colorado while my orders are sending me to Bragg. I read somewhere that we wouldn't get our orders changed to be with him or vice versa for at least a year. Is this true?Can someone please explain the whole army active duty married couples thing? I know there's no guarantee that we will be stationed together. That's all I know really.
Please help ... Needing marriage advice. What should I do?
I'm 20 and got married at 18. We dated for only 3 months before getting married. My husband is a great man caring, hard working, loving, kind and gentle, respectful, etc ... The list goes on and on. He is what women would call a " dream man" .The problem in my marriage isn't really about my husband, it's about me. I'm no longer attracted to him. We haven't had sex for over 6 months, and when we used to have sex I've always hated it and cried afterwards with shame and disgust. I've only ever done it with him because I've been told countless times that it's my 'duty' as a wife and that I'm abnormal if I don't. I wish I could pretend and say I've enjoyed it, but sadly I never have. We've tried everything ... Sexy lingerie, role playing, foreplay and all that other stuff but it just ends up making me want to die with disgust. I've always been an odd child growing up in the sense that I never dreamed of one day having my own children or even getting married. I've always felt uncomfortable about the idea of sex, procreation and avoided children and babies even though I've never had any traumatizing or scary experiences with either men or babies . The first time I ever held a baby in my life was a week ago, and it was because of a friend of mine was holding it, got a phone call and passed it to me without even asking me. I was beyond uncomfortable and just wanted to drop it and run. I realize how immature I am, and the fact that perhaps I wasn't even ready for marriage yet. I feel so hollow inside, sometimes so emotionally unstable and I want to end my life but I still care about my husband... more as my best friend and not that romantic love way. I just don't want to live a pretend life, and I want to be on my own and figuring out what it is I want in life.We've already talked about this and he's been so understanding and willing to help work it out. I'm just wondering if this marriage can even be saved ...I had two previous boyfriends before I got married, both of which I broke up with within 1 year because I was no longer attracted to them and just wanted to be alone. When I was growing up in my house my mom had a rule that I could not have a boyfriend until I was 17, so I didn't have any time to date and figure out what I wanted in a relationship. Before I got married I had many second thoughts, but the wedding was already planned out and I didn't want to disappoint my family.Jay, your answer hit me hard and made me cry but I really, really needed that. I've always had huge self esteem issues and haven't truly loved myself. I realize that I am selfish and need help. Thank you so much.
Real important marriage advice?
Ok so heres the problem. My wife left me , and she says its because she wants to be single because she doesnt know who she is, she also discovered she had cancer but it was removed, and she lost an ovary. Thus ruining our chances or her chances of having another child. After contacting her a couple of times she said she saw me as a friend and that the first year of our marriage was great, but after that it began to suck and she didnt feel like being married. We had regressed to stay at home people who rarely go out, and we basically acted like an old married couple. Well she said she refused to come back because of the reasons listed above, but after allot of talking she agreed to give me 7 dates to prove to her I could be different and to amaze her and to get her interested again, and possibly not think so grimly about being married to me. I need advice , opinions , and more. Is this even possible. She doesnt know the wild side of me which I have never revealed to her, but I want to make every night count. If I fail then we are divorcing because I promised i would give that to her after the 7 dates if she didnt feel any different.
Need marriage advice...............?
lately i have been considering divorce and thinking every day about it .my husband is becoming emotionally abusive he has been like this for the last 2 years since he lost his money .i tried so hard to make things work but it doesn't seem like it going to work .everyday we have a fight for the last 2 years i v been living in a hell we even separated for 6 month i went back to my parents the only reason i came back is form 2 babies i live away from my parents in a different country ,i have no one to talk to ....he is so ungratefully he doesn't want me to work either or even have a life ....we don't have sex at all he turns me off i hate him so much my parents tells me to work things out because they don't give a FCUK either they are stingy and they hate the idea to add a plate on the table .........i met a new guy on the net he makes feel good ...we just chat as friends we never met i don't even care if my husband knows i ask him to divorce me everyday and he acts like im not there ........very weird behavior ..what should i do .......when theres no place to work things out i hate his breath.
In need of some marriage advice...?
Let's start off by saying I have been married for almost 2 years now and I have 2 children by a prior relationship and my husband has 2 children by 2 prior relationships. My children live with us and he got full custody of his youngest 2 months after we got married. Since we have had a child of our own. My children go to see their father every other weekend and his daughter goes to see her mother every other weekend, and the weekend in between we have both of his, both of mine and ours together. My problem is how my husband always trys to make me feel bad about his daughter because he says she has no one but I keep her everyday. stay at home mom but I don't feel bad because my other 2 children are in the same situation. He wants me to be mommy to her but I can't do that because she has a mommy that she sees. He doesn't want to be daddy to mine because they have their daddy. So why does my husband expect so much from me with his daughter. I am already there for her every day and I have other children to tend to, not just her? He is always letting her by with things even though the rules apply with mine because he says she has had it so rough. I don't see where she has had it any harder than mine. They all live in a split household. This is our constant fight about treating my kids just as fair as he treats his. I am always trying to talk to him about how she gets away with everything and my kids do not but like i said it always turns into a fight. What can I do to make this situation better or how to get him to see where I am coming from. I am affraid we are looking at divorce because of all the fiighting. He threatens it upon me all the time when we fight. Any suggestions are welcome no nonsense answers please. Thank you.
Need relationship and marriage advice!!?
My wife and i recently separated about 3 weeks ago, our 4yr old son just told me that her new boyfriend along with his 3yr son are staying there on occasion, but also sleeping in the same bed ? ? Im so furious, but i know the marriage and relationship is over but i still dont think its right for her to expose my son to this? How should i react? Is this something i should call and bring up?? Please help
Long distance marriage ??? advice plz?
my fianc lives in Italy. We recently decided that he relocates to our native country Tunisia, more specifically to the capital where i live . He has got a good job lined up but it requires a lot of travelling especially during the summer . The government selected 105 high school teachers out of 8000 candidates and i was one of them. it took almost a year to pass all the tests and be appointed. I am 23 and i'm the youngest one appointed this year and it was my first trial. People fail these exams multiple times before they actually succeed . In my country being a high school teacher is an excellent job. i work 17hours a week, the holidays are at least 4 months spead throughout the year and the salary is great. At the same time i'm studying to get my master's degree, so in few years i will be a university teacher.the Problem is that i was appointed in the south which is totally different from where i live. People are different here they are extremely conservative. The infrastructure of the town is hideous even tap water tastes like dirt and can't be used neither for drinking or cooking . Not to mention the heat since it is the Arabian desert . It takes me 8hours by bus to get home and the bus fair is rather expensive . The problem is that my fianc and i were planning to get married in the spring , but as i said we are 8 hours apart and the place where i live is not convenient to raise a family in . I will have to spend 3years here to say the least in order to be transferred back to my home town.My fianc believes that the only solution is that i quit my job and i will never do that, i simply can't what do u think we shloud do???
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