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How could I get a healthy relationship?
How often should you have sex in a healthy relationship?
How do you go from having all unhealthy relationships, to maintaining a healthy relationship?
For me, I know that I have had my issues with men. I guess you can say it started when I was about 15, I went from having my father, to him deciding he wanted nothing to do with being my father anymore my parents were divorced when I was a baby . It was real sudden, I litteritly went from having my dad, to not having him in one day. I was a daddys girl, I valued my fathers opionion and no matter what i was doing in life when my dad was there. I would always say in my head what would my dad say if i did this or didnt do that" ... I wanted him to be proud of me. I was a honor roll, Honor Society, Spanish Club, Band, Softball, Basketball student. I never did those things cause thats what he wanted, I wanted it to, but it felt good to know I was making him proud, by being me and doing the things I love. My sophomore year I was offered a FULL RIDE to college. My life was happy, and full.Over that summer is when he decided to stop playing this role that he had as my father. And might i mention, he did it well when he was there, not perfect, but i respected him. I was in band NO NOT A GEEK and I tried calling him for a week cause I was first Chair and the school wanted me to do a solo at the GRADUATION CEREMONY. I was so proud of that, but i was unable to reach him so he showed up that weekend at 8 as usual, I went to the car and told him mind you im in my band dress, long black the honor i had and what time I would be done. HE LOOKED AT ME and said " so you dont need me then huh, your just gonna go and blow me off, well i guess this is the end cause you dont need me" he then put his car in reverse, slammed on the gas and took off throwing dirt and mudd all over me.NOW I HAVE TOLD YOU THIS STORY FOR A REASON At first I thought he was just mad that he drove all the way to my house, and after i got done at the ceremony, i called, waited for him to show up...but he didn't that weekend, so i keep calling and waiting for the next 6 months. Mind you my mom was more of a friend not much of a mom. Her answers to everyday prob, was the easy way...I started failing school, no even going, staying out, partying, dating men 10 15 years older then me, and now I realize that even though i may not of done those things intentionally AT THE TIME I was craving attention in anyform. I was craving guideness I WAS 15. I didn't care about much of anything, didnt eat didnt sleep, just felt so alone... AND its as if I wanted someone to tell me no, stop, do you know what your doing to the rest of your life. but no one didI would let these men control me, tell me when and where and how and thought that it was NORMAL and they were treating me good.Needless to say, I know it was mental and alot of physical abuse, but at the time I didn't. I just wanted someone to love me. In the first relationship I had, it was constant. HE made me feel like I wish I would die, I didnt wanna wake up, like I was good for nothing, I was skum, I was only there to please him, my feelings didn't matter. AND GOD KNOWS i tried everything to make him happy, it hopes he wouldn't yell or say the nasty things. but after a while of that i belived it. I really thought he cheated, cause i wasnt good enough, so my self worth was completly distroyed. I ended up pregnant, and couldn t let my daughter go though that...MOVED OUTGOT ON MY OWN TWO FEET, FINISHED SCHOOL, WENT TO COLLEGE and it felt good,4 years of just me and my daughterI ment my sons father, he was so nice at first, then it started, and i loved him so much that it didnt matter. he started hitting me, to the point that I couldnt get up some days. and to be honest some days i wish he would of hit me instead of killing me emotionally, but there i was so down, and lost, i wanted to just die, I couldn't belive I let this happen, how did this happen...very gradually over 5 years. NOW there i was with 2 kids ONE WITH SERIOUS MEDICAL PROB and im stuck...my life just seemed hopeless...but even worse I seen it effecting my kids and there mental status...he would try to hurt me though my kids....so I woke up one day and said enough... and figured it out and we are no longer together....NOW, I have a man in my lfe that is good to me and my kids, I have known him my whole life, He was my best friend growing up and still is. But it just seems too good to be true, I don't wanna push what the others did on him. but im scared that I will ruin this true happiness by not allowing myself to open up, to trust him he has never done me wrong in any way , He is so special to me, but at the same time it scares the hell out me. Whats normal to the world was not my version of NORMAL. I lost my trust in MEN all the way down to my father. This guy is my age, makes me laugh, and smile, I feel like I can do anything, but i cant stop pushing him away cause im scared, what if any advice can you give me....
Read this and tell me if you think this person is in a healthy relationship I am quoting something they said?
I realized tonight that driving may clear your head atleast for awhile, but it does nothing to clear your heart or soul. Also, I realized that sometimes, even if you've been strong and overcome many horrible things in your life, there are some things that finally break you completely. And, the shattered remains of who you once were can never be put back together. So, you go on in robot like motion, feeling empty, broken, and you simply wait until it all ends
Can a drinker and a non-drinker be in a healthy relationship together?
Over the past few months I have been getting pretty close to this girl, and I really like her a lot. We're both in our early 20s.However, I grew up with an alcoholic father and you know, blah blah blah it was horrible. So I don't drink, at least I don't get drunk I'll have a beer, or shot, or glass of something occasionally though She however, does drink and she likes to go out and get hammered. I don't think either one of us is wrong for doing what we do, I just feel like it's a big divider in our relationship.I don't really know though... is it even a big deal? How do we work around it? Will it work out?
Is this a healthy relationship to be in ?
I live in Illinois and my gf lives in Florida she says she doesn't care about a long distance relationship with me because she loves me a lot and I love her I have visited her a lot and I want to move down there once I'm through with college
Is this a normal healthy relationship?plz reply!!!?
Just a question like you are getting married to this rich,handsome and famous guy who earns in millions but stays out of home due to job, and the wedding ring you pick up for him is a thick silver one and very plain,just like an ordinary ring which doesn't fit him properly either,very loose and keeps sliding off,though not completely.Secondly he cheats on you after marriage and before marriage with girls significantly younger than him,reunions with mistresses,thrashing colleague for her sex life after break up,rumors of having an illegitimate baby,yet you stay content and his cheating has absolutely no effect on you.You are always out of home,wearing full makeup even at gym or restaurant even while eating pizza taking photos everywhere of yourself and with your girlfriends.spouse has started some makeup business doing makeup and taking her pictures while doing the makeup of the ladies Are seldom seen talking as well if in public together and the guy never ever takes pictures with her on his own.Its only wen photographers request a couple photo.And when spouse didn't accompany husband,the husband looked least bothered about her absence,smiling and much more relaxed,he looked so happy,his eyes were literally sparklingBeen married since 2007 and have a 3 and a half year old daughter And loves his daughter immensely.he had already chosen baby names for a girl even before they were married and wanted a baby quickly.
How do you maintain a healthy relationship with the Ex when he seems to have boundary issues?
I've been separated for almost 3 years and divorced for almost a year. I have a very good relationship with my ex husband, we are friendly and the marriage ended without a lot of fighting or awful words. I have moved on with my boyfriend we've been together almost two years now and have hopes for a bright future with him. I have three wonderful kids with my ex. It is important to me that they have a good relationship with their dad, and I do everything I can to work with him to make that happen. Here's the issue. My ex travels for work a lot. ALL THE TIME. His girlfriend lives in another state she's someone he had a relationship with while we were still married, so they've been at this for a while . But when he travels it's like he's bored or lonely or whatever and he starts texting me. Nothing sexual ew or really inappropriate, but a little too friendly for my taste. Like funny pictures, or what he's eating for dinner, or mundane everyday things. Things I don't care about at all. He texts me like 10 12 times a day... and sometimes it's about the kids appropriate but usually it's not. It's the mundane, and it's stuff I don't care about. It's like he thinks we're friends and I want to hear about his every day. I do send him texts, but it's stuff about the kids. It's not mundane stuff. I had issues with him when we were separated in that he felt the need to hug me all the time. Everytime we saw each other he hugged me, every time he left he hugged me. I was so creeped out and I had to be firm and say no hugs. Dude left me and three kids and thought it was okay to hug me all the time?? WTF? I think part of him regrets the divorce because I was able to move on and find an amazing man to be in my life and in our kids' lives. My boyfriend says I should just ignore him and he's eventually stop, but I know my ex well enough that he doesn't get subtle like that. I don't want to cause myself trouble by alienating him, but I want it to stop. What can I do say to get that point across? It's just getting worse... and it's frustrating. he's always going to be in my life as the father of my kids, but should I have to put up with him just because he pays me child support?
Is this a healthy relationship at this young of an age?
my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 9 months, we have been friends for 10 years. We are like best friends and talk all the time, tell each other everything and just do everything we can together when we see each other. He goes to college in a different state and we see each other durring breaks and talk almost everynight for hours. I am 20 and he is 22 and the last time we saw each other he told me how he wanted to grow old with me and have kids with me .. he even said my name sounded good with his last name.. is it like healthy to be in a relationship like this at 20 .. or is this like to serious ? opinions... dont get me worng I love him to death and i would love to be with him
Is it possible to have a healthy relationship again with your ex?
HELLO READER,ready to read a interesting HOT GOSSIPY STORY about my ELEMENTARY ROMANCE???haha jk, but please refrain from the simple responses of " move on" and be more in depth with your criticisms and suggestions. thank you When we first got together we decided that we would mutually break up because I was transferring from community college to a UC that is 8 hours away. She goes to school near where I live and she lives near where I go to school.1. Relationship was established2. 7 months later, I moved away3. We then broke up mutually a month later she was crying a lot 4. As a rebound, she slept dated with this person I have hung out with a few times whom I obviously now think is a dooshbag , but stopped seeing him because he was a man whore. I've had opportunities to have sex with other girls, but chose not to because it didn't feel right, although I did hook up with them 5. She then unveils to me that she felt like I was too disrespectful to her and that's why she really wanted to end our relationship...although long distance6. We had been talking and calling each other, it doesn't seem that either of us can get over each other especially her because she cries a lot more than me 6. I tell her that I had changed which I really had , moving out from my parents home calmed me down and changed me a lot, I told her I wanted to give it another go7. She said she was willing to give our relationship another go, but that she needed some time and that most likely we could start up again during the summer where we could see each other more often8. A few days later, she tells me that she still will be kissing her friends both Males and Females in a platonic way. Not something comforting to hear from my end.9. I got upset over the phone and told her that I made a mistake, because I felt that she wasn't taking me seriously and was dragging me like if I could just be used as a toy. So I lost my temper and called her a dumb as s hippy bitc h thinking I was finally done with her.10. We called and talked later, i apologized for acting immature, and she apologized for not being sensitive to my feelings. However, I didn't bring up the idea of getting back together, because I'm not sure if that was still possible.11. During our apology, she still cried over the phone and told me she loved me. I told her I didn't, but later on texted her telling her I did, because I do really love her, but I'm trying to move on.This is very brief of our relationship, sorry if it was still lengthy, but I want to know if it's still possible for us to get back together we are seeing each other at Coachella, possible talk time? during the summer, and is it healthy? In all honesty, I love her so much and I think about her everyday, we have a lot in common, and I feel like she makes me a better person. I've had a few girlfriends and until now, I've never felt this way about a girl I called her dumb hippy blah, after she texted me saying she was over my fucking bs and that she was done...but obviously judging from previous talks she was just angry at the moment when she said that.I personally think I just need a person to beat the shit out of me so I can stop thinking about her and move the fuc k onthank you bunny and rebecca...means a lot
Ladies and Gentlemen, is this a healthy relationship, when a hug is not enough?
a hug from my girl ISNT enough that's how i feel. most of the time i think about her but on a daily basis, a hug is all i can share with her < and it isnt even a long hug > i want more from her.. but i dont know what. I CANT tell if she loves me like i love her. it's hard to read expressions for me so our relationship seems distant< in my opinion> . BABY GIVE ME TWO HUGS NOW NOW NOW >
How do you continue a healthy relationship with a cheater?
Me and my boyfriend are currently six months pregnant with a girl. I have a child from a previous relationship and he has two from a previous marriage. When we started talking he was just separated not completely divorced. So months later we start a relationship and now we have this little angel on the way. I am not one with the whole " womanly instincts" but I knew he was lying about something and I just didn't know what. During my six month pap, it came out abnormal and I only had one person to question. He lied and said he did nothing, that he must of had it the whole time, but, as time went on we broke up and upon going back together we had an amnesty period and he told me he had cheated on his wife with the same girl he hooked up with while with me earlier in the pregnancy. It was a shocker because I thought I was silly for assuming, but, no, all the clues that pointed to him cheating ended in the fact that he was cheating.So now here we are back together, technically I just found out he is still married, the divorce was suppose to be done months ago but hasn't been, and I can't help to question myself if he will do it again. He is a very handsome guy who gets lots of attention, he has wandering eyes when it comes to other females and I can't help but to ponder if something is going on and whether to believe what he says. I have caught him in multiple lies in which his close friend has admitted to me and he just calls me slimy for going to him for the truth, but where else am I going to get it if not from him?So my question is..how does one continue on happy when inside you are the most insecure person now? I feel like I want him beside me 24 7 just so I know he is being faithful. Things aren't the way they were anymore, his mood is angrier, arguments just flow with him now, he leaves when things get rough and his eyes and fingers are constantly glued to that phone texting and it sure isn't to me. I don't know what to do..I want to be with him, but I want to be happy with him too especially with this little one on the way. Any tips on how to work through this?Well you guys were right, I got ignored this whole weekend when he was with his " wife" but he was just suppose to be visiting his kids which were barely around him and I got cheated on yet again multiple times just these past two days. I guess it is time I realized it's time to let go. Thanks for your advice guys.
What does it mean to have a healthy relationship?
My girlfriend and I are very happy together. Whether it is either knowing each other mentally or through each other's interests, we know each other very well. We trust each other. We run into fights occasionally, but it isn't a problem because we know how to get through them. We have been dating for 2 years now. Her parents love me. My parents love her. I support her, she supports me.Well, that was just my situation what does it mean to have a healthy relationship? Is my relationship considered healthy, or do are there other details that have to be listed in order to know?
Any secrets of a healthy relationship?
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