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Question: Dating and relationship advice please?

(Posted by: on 2012-01-30 20:06:19)

I am a sixteen year old girl with serious self confidence issues. I've always known that if a guy could like me, I would feel better about myself. I'm very shy and I seriously suck at making friends and stuff like that. I'm ten times worse at making friends with guys. I've tried just 'being me' and it hasn't done anything for me either. I've tried online dating and I've been in a relationship with a guy I seriously love for three months now. It helped at first, but now I just feel EVEN MORE like a failure because we met online in a chat room. I'm not sure what to do and I get seriously depressed whenever I think about alone I am or think about my boyfriend (whom I don't really consider to be my REAL boyfriend, because it's only online). I can't listen to love songs without feeling lonely or see couples in the hallway without getting super jealous. I can't even be happy for my best friend who just got her first boyfriend. I hate myself and the way I am and I don't know what to do! Would someone please give me some advice? ...I cut myself when I get really depressed and lonely!

Posted by: Jessica on 2012-01-30, 20:13:19

Sweetheart...i know what you're going through must be tough. But honestly in my opinion, boys are just trouble. I know that may be hard to read, but its very true. ESPECIALLY high school boys. I used to be the same way, I had HORRIBLE self-confidence issues when I was in jr high/ beginning of high school. But what I did was find an outlet that preoccupied my mind and let me focus on something that I absolutely loved to do. Stay away from online dating or chat rooms..you never know what you will get yourself into, they can be very dangerous! I think you just need to work on building up your self confidence and finding things that make you happy. You should never rely on a man to make you happy. Don't worry about the boys, they will always be there! The best things in life are found when you're not looking for them. Remember that! I hope this helps. good luck <3 :)