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I need breakup advice..it's kinda serious...ehh...yeah...?
So. I had a boyfriend, things had been tense for a while. We used to be really perfect for each other...like...an amazing couple. He had proposed to me and of course I said yes. But afterwards, we started to, I dunno, grow apart? Today it was official that we had broken up..and I was really destroyed by it. He had been there while I was just...begging him for it to not be over. He hugged me and told me that he would be there for me and to just think about how we were and let it all out. I had literally been with him for a half hour just crying on his shoulder and him holding me. I told him I loved him one last time and he said 'I love you too'..I don't know what that was supposed to mean. He tols me that for now we would just be best friends I don't know how I'll fare with that because he means the world to me and it kills me to see him with anyone else and that one day he would come back to me that he just needed time to think. So...a few hours later...I saw him with a guy...that guy turned out to be his new boyfriend he's bisexual and that just crushed me even more...I really just...want to die now. I love him too much, I'll never forget him, and to see what we had and how things are now...it hurts too much. What I don't understand was that three days before he broke up, he told me the sweetest thing he'd ever said to me he told me that I was beautiful on the inside and out, and that I was his everything and I shouldn't let anyone tell me differently...well...so much for that...Any advice you have would be very much appreciated. Thank you < 3

Any good breakup advice?
Ok just got dumped by my boyfriend of one year turns out he was cheating on me for 1 month with guess who my sister And I didn't know that until he said he chose my sister over me. My twin sister I am mad at both of them Any good advice to get through these tough times with my sister and ex? I really need help. I have been crying my eyes out locked up in my bedroom for like 5 hours. And for like 30 minutes my sister has been begging me to let her in. But why should I she betrayed me. What should I do... Sorry this was so long I am just really really really extremely emotional right now. Thanks....

First breakup advice? :( 10 points!?
ok, so, a couple days ago, he broke up with me. we've been going out for like a month but we've liked flirted with each other for like 4 months. but I kinda agreed to it. what happened was we were texting & he was like " I've been thinking lately..." & some other stuff then he said " I'm really messed up right now. I don't even know what I'm doing. I don't know how I feel. my emotions are tied up in one big knot & I just can't handle a relationship. im sorry. please don't hate me" or something like that. were both only 14 & this is both of our first relationship so of course we don't really know what we're doing. so I was just like " oh ok. honestly, im fine with it. as long as we just go back to the way we were before" which was basically us liking each other but not having the whole bf gf label. & then i was like " well, I'm not gonna yell at you or anything but what, do you like another girl or something?" " no, I don't like anyone...except you." & I just don't know what to do. I mean I really like him but I'm ok with being just friends as long as he doesn't ignore me or act awkward around me. but after the break up, at a dance, he asked me to dance to all the slow songs & even some fast songs for fun but during one slow song, I was like " so, what are we?" & he goes " it's complicated." as he smiles. what does that even mean? & also, at the dance, everyone was in a circle swaying back & forth & some girl was in between us & we had to all put our arms around each other which meant his hand was on mine so idk, i just did what i wanted I just locked his fingers with mine & we both just smiled at each other. so..does he still like me? what should I do? just wait for him? or should I try to get over him? cause I think he still likes me but he just doesn't know how to be a boyfriend yet. ? please help thank you ps sorry this is so long ha

Need breakup advice...?
My boyfriend and I were together for the last 4 years and recently broke up. He basically completely changed overnight. Started drinking ALL the time, started hanging out with people who are terrible influences, and hooking up with and talking to other girls behind my back and then lying about it. He is a completely different person now. I just couldn't handle it anymore.It just sucks because the first few years of our relationship were awesome. Even though I broke it off, I am the heartbroken one. He doesn't seem to care much. However, we live in a small town and we have a ton of mutual friends, so my question is how in the hell do I get over him? I run into him occasionally, and I constantly hear about his latest antics...and it breaks my heart. It is really hard to get over someone when I have to hear about him having a good time and getting with other girls and acting like the last 4 years didn't happen. It is driving me crazy I can't get away from it and I don't know what to do. Please help Sorry this was kinda long, if you leave a link to a question you want answered, I'd be happy to do so.

Devastating breakup advice please?
We have a long distance relationship he lives in melbourne and i live in adelaide we havent met but we were going to meet in october. We have been together for 5 months. the reason his seeing a lawyer is that his youngest brother whos only 14 recently commited manslaughter and the trials in november. There mum came back from Thailand to be with them. That night he called me and hes like " what have you been doing" and i said i have been reading and he said oh thats good then I didnt say anything he said he vomitied at the train station and i was like WTH? and said he should see a dr. He then said babe im really busy right now with things but please dont take it in the wrong way if we cant talk for a couple of days..... i went silent and then his like babe...... and i started sniffing and then hes like " honestly ive been having second thoughts with this relationship" and im like what do u mean then hes like " I have so many things on my minds right now with school and my brother and we have to sell the house and my other brother just got in a car accident I havent had much time to think about you" i asked him if he lost feelings for me he said " A little bit, but not enough that i cant say i love you" he said this is really hard for him too. He said things would be so different if you were here.... The next night he txted me " hey, how are you feeling" and i txted him im ok and you and he said hes alright too... i asked him to call me and he said that would be a very bad idea but i said i wanted to be mature about this so he end up calling me. I asked him a couple of questions and to be honest with me.. What was the main reason you broke up with me? " the main reason is because of everything thats going on i cant have a relationship right now...." He started crying ALOT. and i said why are you crying and he said because he feels bad that he took so much away from me because im younger, he didnt let me hang out with guys or go out to parties and stuff and i said but you did the same for me.... and he said im sorry. He kept crying. i asked him if he really wanted to break up with me and he said no but he had to because of whats going on. he said we have been together for 5 months and i havent even seen you, you know how much that hurts? I said i wish i was there with you and he said i wish that too..... I asked him if the things with his brother never happened if he still would of left me and he said no he would of waitied to see me in october. I asked him if he still feels the same way about me from the start... and he said ofcourse, its only been a day. i told him if he ever needs anyone to talk to he can talk to me and he said same with you i told him ill still be his friend and hes like ill be your best friend too. He kept crying... I asked if he still wanted to see me in october and he said yes and i said ok ill come down with my mum and he said ok. I asked him if he has deleted my photos yet and he said no and i said are u going to and he said no... i asked if he told his friends about the breakup and he said no and i said are u going to and he said eventually.... he told me not to ever go out with a dick and i said ok.... he told me to take care and be safe... and to always watch my back and never do drugs or get drunk cause its bad and said dont go for a guy with no future. He said i was a beautiful girl inside and out and not to ever doubt that... we then said goodnight.... and left it i dont know what to do ? is he lieing??

I need breakup advice please?
I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 and a half years off and on without any other relationships. This is my very first serious relationship. I am a high school senior. I love her dearly, but I find that we don't really have any common interest, and she bores me. Recently, a girl who I have always been good friends with became single after a year long relationship, and we have many common interest. I really like her but I can't help but feel like a total D bag for feeling this way. This girl told me that she had a dream that she kissed me, and then when I ran into her at her place of work she told me she broke up with her boyfriend.Might I add that she is very controlling. She gets jealous of my dad who I only get to see a few times a year.

I need breakup advice?
my boyfriend just broke up with me and i dont know what to do i feel like he took part of me and i loved him so much what do i do as an outlet please help ...music books poetry ANYTHING

Need some breakup advice. People with experience only please..?
Hello. If you are going to post mean or rude comments please just move along. I'm not looking for people to tell me to 'get over it' etc. I know I have to get over it but I'm in a slump and need some words of ENcouragement, not discouragement. Thanks. Me and my boyfriend of 2 years split 3 months ago due to distance. He had a new girlfriend Who he didn't know before within a month after the split. Shortly after we broke up My nanny passed away Like 3 days after we broke up so the whole split became even more hard to deal with.It's been 3 months and I still think of him often. I don't want to tell him I still have feelings because he is in a relationship with someone else. Do you think it's possible to get over a 2 year relationship in less then a month? It just made me feel rather worthless, like I didn't mean as much as I thought I had. He's told me before how much he regretted leaving. I don't know what to do. I think the only way I would ever consider taking him back would be if he moved home. We went no contact for over a month after I found out he was in a new relationship because I was just so hurt, however we started speaking again. He told me he never tried to contact me because he thought I hated him and was respecting my wishes. We haven't talked a lot, just every now and then but we did have a strange conversation the other day... See for a conversation that made me wonder a little bit. answers.yahoo.com question index ylt AoPulcGFtke9xfl5WdXSCPvty6IX ylv 3?qid 20111012153758AAR8Oph . I'm starting to think maybe no contact is best for me. I made a lot of progress with myself when we didn't speak at all. Don't get me wrong I'm not hung up enough on him that Im not considering other people because I have been on dates.I guess I just need some words of encouragement or advice. Do you guys think it's foolish to still have feelings 3 months after a 2 year relationship? Could he have really gotten totally over me that fast? is what I'm going through normal? I'm 20 years old but have only had 3 boyfriends, this one being my most serious so I don't have a lot of experience in this.

I need some breakup advice ?
Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple days ago . She wanted to break up with me . I thought things were going good so I was pretty surprised . But now I feel like nothing without her and think about her every second of the day . Someone help please . Should I ask her if she wants to get back together or should I just leave it like it is ???

Girl I likes boyfriend breakup advice?
This girl that I like That goes to my school had a boyfriend but today they broke up. Ive told my friends about my crush on this but they all say she's out of my league and stuff. She's a friend of mine and I just want to know,how can I show that I like her in a non verbal way,and what can I say to show her I care about her.thanks in advance.

Need breakup advice please!?
I am in my early twenties and have been with my boyfriend the last 4 years. I recently broke it off with him for a multitude of reasons, but bottom line, he treated me terrible. But even though I broke it off, I am the one who is the most hurt. He doesn't seem to care at all, and has already begun talking to other girls in a matter of days. I know I shouldn't be upset over someone who clearly doesn't even care about me, but I can't help it. I need to get over him. Can anyone please help and give me advice? Thanks...

I need breakup advice?
please can someone help me, i broke up my ex about year ago but we were on and off but ever since the initial breakup i have been heart broken, now we have both left school and no longer see eachother anymore and it feels so weird not seeing him i feel awful and still think of him and miss him and am really hurt am i going to feel like this forever

I need good breakup advice..?
There is this guy and he overheard me saying he was cute so he asked me out. We went out for a week and he told me he loved me then like two days later he broke up with me for his ex. I don't get why he would do that, I liked him so much, and it's been like 2 weeks and I can't get over him.He was my first boyfriend and I keep holding hope that he'll come back, I want him back bad and I know that's unhealthy for me... any advice?

Ex came back, after 3 month breakup?? advice please!?
So to make a very long story short..We were together for 2 years, in our mid twenties..very close and deeply in love. Things got harsh, we took a break to figure it out, and ended up breaking up. more so her, cus she wanted space to re connect with her friends, fam and to be herself.I havent text her or anything for weeks, only when she would contact me and even then i kept it short, cool and not too deep.Now she is dying to know how ive been, what ive been up to, how school is going, work, everything that a girlfriend would want to know and be part of in ones life. Neither one of us is persuing anyone else, and we seem to actually connect more so now. She has mentioned our relationship, and how we let it get so bad. She wants me in her life, but of course neither one of us wants it to go back to how the relationship was. We want to figure it out and do it right this time around, but she has a fear bcus she doesnt know where to begin, bcus its been a while. and i understand her fear, but like i told her we both equally gotta take the biggest risk were ever gonna take and really figure this out together, even if its babysteps... we both want this in time together.well here is my actual question....these days since she hit me up, i kept my cool, and not let my emotions control how i come off.. we are to hang sunday on both our day off, and possibly sat night... but ive really been thinking these past few days. I am beyond done with the breakup, i am loving myself way more, and i feel incredible of what i learned about myself through this. Ive made a ton of wonderful memories with great friends and made new friends in this time, and i would love for her to share them with me. Iknow its only a day or two away til we hang, but its like i really want to hit her up today, and explain myself to her.. how i feel, what i think of her and us, and how i do miss her also. but i am not sure if i should, or wait...?? or what do i even say?? should i explain everything i have learned from this, about myself, being in a relationship and ect..??..im sorry, iknow this turned out long anyways.. haha