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Question: How long would you go without sex before breaking up with spouse?

(Posted by: on 2012-02-07 00:40:10)

Say there isn't a physical problem. Just regular little arguments. However your spouse refuses sex. A week goes by, then a month, 2 months, and could be more... How long is too long if sex is being withheld from the relationship?

Posted by: bleuroze on 2012-02-07, 01:21:22

Why is the sex being withheld? Is the spouse upset and trying to force attention to the issue? Or just so upset about the issue they're not interested? I think the underlying issue causing the spouse to withhold sex would need to be addressed or the marriage is over within a couple weeks because neither is happy if one is being denied a resolution and the other is being denied sex.

Posted by: Nicolle Evans on 2012-02-07, 00:41:39

If you love the person sex shouldn't be an issue. I would never leave my partner if he decided he didn't want sex - I love him, not just the sex.

Posted by: Trainer on 2012-02-07, 00:44:21

Haven't had sex with my wife in 2 years and it was my decision. She is always trying to get me to have sex, but wives are boring and gross. I'd be very happy if my wife was that willing to not have sex.

Posted by: confusedmuch on 2012-02-07, 00:52:02

Yeah, sex shouldnt matter. but you do need to "consumate your marriage " and as a wife/ husband it is kind of the other persons right to have sex so...try asking them? but as stated below, sex is not everything.

Posted by: lady on 2012-02-07, 00:53:01

First, how do you know there is no physical problem? If you are sure that therewith not a physical problem it sounds like your spouse is a passive aggressive. I think that sex is very important in a relationship. I would definately try counseling and/ or speaking to your spouse. There is something out of whack here. Is there any cheating going on? You will eventually cheat on this person if you have a sex drive (and you obviously do).....I would say there has to be some improvement or progress in this area pretty quickly or its time to hang up the towel. If you love this person and they don't want to change you will have to forget sex the rest of your life. I have met many people who have sacrificed sex. Your spouse may be gay. Maybe they are depressed. I would need to see some kind of trying on my spouses part. Ite selfish to withhold sex. I think they are trying to punish you. Get it out there. Tell them you need sex. It's a need. Ask for counseling.....maybe try a romantic massage. Do stuff you never did before in bed. Be a little.adventurous. bring lingerie into the mix. Take them to a spa or romantic cabin. I would forget sex if the person had a good reason to not do it. it sounds like this person is punishing you bit they may be covering up something. Whether its an illness or affair or psychological problem......you need.to find out. If you need.sex.and its not here.then this relationship won't work for you. The spouse could also be trying to get out of a relationship they don't want subconsciouslyn some.people don't have the balls to break up so they make life unbearable for the other person until they are left.

Posted by: Warren on 2012-02-07, 01:05:20

All the women will say sex doesn't matter. They don't have a penis, or the drive to let out sperm every day. So their answers are exempt. If it is getting into months of no sex? Time to kick her to the curb. Life is too short to not being with someone that wants to make you happy in every way. Always return the favor though of course.

Posted by: proudmomma416 on 2012-02-07, 01:27:01

Really absolutely retarded all u men are no sex is not the important part of a relationship and no its not that all women don't want to have sex trust me I love it sex is fucking amazing but how do u no something didn't happen like maybe she got raped and is afraid to say something or maybe she gets pain from having sex but if u really loved someone enough to marry them u shouldnt leave them cause they for some reason don't wanna have sex. Maybe she wants u to be romantic but u need to sit her down and talk about it.

Posted by: mredsgal on 2012-02-07, 01:33:52

Sex is not the foundation of a relationship. Love is. As long as mutual love existed I would be there forever.

Posted by: Country Lady on 2012-02-07, 18:07:15

I'm 50 yrs old, w/ 4 children, I was maried for 21 yrs & of that time the last 12+ yrs were Abusive & Completely Sexless(Him), after he fell asleep while performing oral & he was a 2 pump chump. I always gave more sexually, most men would've approved. He refused counseling & due to health issues he couldn't take any ED meds. The continued Abuse finally did it, after 5 yrs of individual counseling & 1 yr in a Domestic Violence Support Group, I was finally strong enough mentally & emotionally to say Enough. I filed for divorce 1/ 6/ 09 & divorce granted 11/ 5/ 09 he died 7/ 31/ 11 the day after my 50th birthday & 1 week before he would've turned 51 yrs old. I'm going into my 16th yr of being a Born Again Virgin, other than my vibrator thats been it for me. I'm 5'1 " tall, 270 lbs (I have lost 100 lbs in 3 yrs), disabled on SSI, low income, no vehicle for the past 18 months to go out, suffer from PTSD, Severe trust issues & I know that I am No beauty. No, I haven't dated, can't deal w/ the BS of players, liars, creeps...

Posted by: summer bear on 2012-02-08, 18:13:54

I wouldn't break up with spouse for lack of sex.

Posted by: Gwen on 2012-02-08, 18:16:52

If this happened to me, I would be relieved. who cares about sex. not me. I've been putting out once a week or more for over 20 years and I'm tired of it. There are better things in life.