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Question: Cant believe that im actually asking for relationship advice?

(Posted by: on 2012-01-28 03:08:56)

Im the guy whos been with a bunch of girls as flings and makeouts and sometimes bootycalls. and recently i realized that im not happy with this life style like i thought i would be. I only converted to this lifestyle because i got my heartbroken bad. It only takes one girl to make a guy a player and vice versa you could say. Anyway. theres this girl i like shes more then just a girl i like. we hang out all the time. and at first honestly it started out as me hanging out with her just because deep down i feel lonely and use flings and one nighters to feel some sort of happiness even if temporary. My friends also said i couldnt get with her which made her more interesting. ( i know im a jerk for that reason). She hasnt let me get home base with here yet which is also interesting that im not the one deciding and dont have the power like im use to these days. I cant even really tell if she likes me the way i do her. Theres lots of physical interatction and flirting but no sex. And thats not even the reason i agree to hanging out with her alot. Ill admit i actually like her more for who she is and how she carries herself and not just cause shes cute and sexy. She told me she likes me because shes tired of guys who dont take control as much as they should. The other day i find out that my best friend likes her and wants her to be his date on valentines. This is the same bestfriend who liked the girlfriend who broke my heart who i "stole " apparently when he gave me permission to ask her out. HE went through a serious phase when i started dating her and was part the reason i got my heart broken but i admitted to deserving it to him. I want to be with this girl. SHe confuses my system. I like her for how smart she is and all the small quirks she has but ive trained myself as the challenge and to challenge my ego so i think she also challenges my ego. Plus i dont wanna tear my bestfriend down again. He didnt even know i was seeing her as often as i am or that i think i might want a serious relationship. I basically have til feb 14 to figure this all out. Its confuses for me im trying to weigh the pros and cons but your heart, mind and sexual organ, F your real emotions over sometimes.

Posted by: Isocrates Tesla on 2012-01-28, 03:10:12

"Mind and sexual organ " That's all I read.

Posted by: Megan on 2012-01-28, 03:12:25

What is this?! a movie!!

Posted by: Andyboy on 2012-01-28, 03:21:19

Good that you are being open and honest here to strangers at least, so you may get different answer levels as you are Still growing up emotionally about where your at. I would suggest in your situation, that your best friend will outlast most probably the new girl, and because it is already established, you should show him this post and discuss it as friends being parts caught in a triangle. It might hurt him a little to see he has competition, but that should blow over much better than him finding out [as he will] by him self later, which would hurt the trust ... again. You will feel supported by your honesty and grow the most past the appendage level .

Posted by: rosebarroga16 on 2012-01-28, 03:38:20

Oh my.this is really a heavy question for me.but i'll try my best 1.) i think you have to tell your best friend the truth that you are seeing her and that you are starting to get serious with her. Yeah, i know it's hard, but your friend deserves to know the truth coming from you, before he hears it from somebody else. 2.) you must be sure of your feelings for her. maybe you were just impressed or you just like being with her...the question here is,do you see yourself being married to her someday?if yes,i think it's worth fighting for. but, you still have to talk to your best friend -in a nice way,ok? 3.) if you're afraid of losing one of them (your best friend and the girl), i think it's best to be silent first. Set aside all the complications. I mean,don't rush things. It's not necessary to have a girl all the time. Concentrate on yourself first and discover what you really want to be. Be a better person. Improve yourself and think things first. Be the best man that you can be for that girl. Take some time first. 4.)Love will always be there if it's true. Your best friend will always be there for you if he's really a good friend. And the girl will always be there if she really loves you. It's all up to you what to do. But if you would ask me, i think you should consider 3 if you want everything to be okay.just sayin'...GOODLUCK!! :)) update me on that.i hope you can do it.