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Ok so first of all i love. but lately for the past week or so she has been " bipolar" and just flipping out on me for nothing. she said shes aggervated and that shes NOT on her period i dont know whats wrong with her but its hurting me because she is mean. and bitchy most of the time. advice? i wanna be with her but im not gonna let someone treat me like this and constantly hurt my emotions. no she has not been diagnosed with bipolar. that is the only way i can describe constant mood changes.

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Well, I think a made a poor decision on my part. Mainly because I got sick that my bf didn't act as normal as I though for all the other guys I dated. I was with him for 4 years, we were dating when we were 16 since high school and now we broken up last year when we were 20.The problem was that he was still interested me and bought me a house and invited me over and he worked as a student doctor along with college and helped pay for us and all the dates he had with me. Then one day I got annoyed by how he didn't want sex at all. He just got a house and I thought it was a great opportunity when he invited me over to live with him, but for all these months he just took me out on dates and then fell asleep in my room. So one day while I was still living with him, I met his friend who always visited and I asked him if he wanted to have sex and he said he definitely loved to but he wouldn't back stab his friend, my bf. So, I one day packed up, called my bf gay limp d ck, and his friend drove me off and he became a new couple.But what happened was that I found out my new bf is the complete opposite of my bf. The good thing is that he loves sex and I finally gave up my virginity to him and no regrets. The only problem is that he doesn't seem to care a thing about me. He owns a small appartment and doesn't seem to afford on taking me out on dates, I've been with him for a month and now I still miss my ex. Should I just get over it since I just hurt my ex really bad and just continue on with my relationship? Or should I get back my bf but how do I get him to ask me back out again as his gf?

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I have a BF, but I'm kind of breaking the number one rule of relationships Don't fall in love with your partner's best friend. Well, I wouldn't call it love exactly, but I think I have stronger feelings for my BF's best friend. They act a lot alike, but my boyfriend doesn't really seem that interested in having a girlfriend like most guys, he just loves his video games and stupid YouTube videos, and it kind of bugs me. I've tried giving him hints, but he doesn't get them. Should I stay with my BF, or try being single again?

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For the first time in my life, there is a girl i like that actually likes me back, but i have a big problemOne of my best friends is her ex and my other best friend fancies the hell out of herI don't want to jeapordise my relationship with my friends but i also want a girlfriend as i've never had one before Please give me advice on what to do?

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My boyfriend just broke up with me.Yes, I feel so sad and awkward, I mean I still loved him, but I'll let him go, his personality won't allow me to win his heart anymore so I won't try to get him back.Tomorrow during school time, I see him in THREE classes. I don't want to ACT all happy and okay.I want to simply look good. What can I do or say to show and let everyone believe that I already got over it? Not to look all desperate? Should I ignore him completely or what?BTW, he'll tell me in the face that it's OFFICIALLY over. He broke up with me through MSN. I'm nervous... I think I'll cry in his face xD

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Well this is like the last question part two. I decided to phone her and well I woke her up $ and now I feel really bad but she says it's okay. But i'm still an idiot for calling her at this time. 23.40 And anyways so we were talking and things and well I just casually asked her if she wanted to go to the cinema with me tomorrow and she said YES I'm cheesing so much. Omg that is unbelievable I can't think straight now. But I don't know if I should ask her out cos tomorrow's gonna be the first time we've like gone out together cos normally we just talk in school. what should i do?

I need actual advice on relationship problems between me and my highschool sweetheart..?
I'm a senior. I've been on and off with the same guy all through highschool. He was the immature player the first two years, lying, messing around, always leaving me. But we worked through that. We gained trust and we were a normal couple again. Now, we fight. We've always fought, like any couple would, but now it's worse than fighting Like if we have a little arguement over going to a football game it leads to something big.. like he'll start cussing at me or whatever and saying stuff like " fuck you" " leave me the hell alone" .. and once he told me to get the fuck out of his house.. at like 11 at night when we fought.. i try to stay calm but yet get my point and now he's such a big ass.. and leaving him IS NOT a option... I just need to know what to say to him so we can get better.... I've told him he takes me for granted and he never tries to fix our fights.. i just deont know what to do. what can i say to him to make him realize

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I feel fucking horrible. Im 16 and ive never dated anyone yet. I dont know what to do and im desparate. Plz dont give me advises on how to be myself. I know how it works. At this point i would date almost anyone. I know that this is pathetic, and age doesnt matter, and that this comes naturally, but any advise would work. Feel free to write anything, i accept criticism very well. Thank you

I need some advice on relationship problems, mainly trust issues?
Ok, so here's the story My girlfriend is mad at me because she believes that i called her a bitch. She heard it from one of the guys at school. Now she totally ignores me and when i try to talk to her about it, she pushes me away.I really want to let her know that she can trust me and that i would never feel that way about her. What do i do? I tried the hurt puppy routine, and that got me nowhere. What do i do? We've been together for two years and now all of a sudden, she doesn't trust me? What do I do?now how would i prove that i love her? i don't badmouth her behind her back or anything. I mean she's the greatest thing to happen to me.and she's a flirtatious girl so how do i know if she isn't just saying that to get us to break up without hurting me, i guess?

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I have been dating a man who is separated from his wife for 18 months. He refers to her as his ex wife but they are still married. He is renting a unit while the matrimonial property is on the market. It could take years to sell as it is a big property and there is a farm attached. She lives there with the child from the marriage. He pays all outgoings on the property as well as spousal and child maintenance. When we first went out he used to take me out for dinner a lot but now it is meals at home which are lovely as he is a good cook but I would like to be spoilt now and then. He has to pay out so much money to his ex that there is little left. The point of my question is do you think he should show respect to me and get a divorce? I have asked him but he just says " it's more money to dish out" and that he will do it after the property settles. This could take forever. Should I wait longer or do you think he is avoiding making a real commitment to me. He is happy to just date me but doesn't really talk about a future for us together as in buying a house or living together. Advice please.

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My fiance is very sensitive and gets upset easily. Little things will send him to extreme anger or depression very quickly. I don't get upset as easily and have a bounce back time of like a minute then I'm over it. It takes him a long time to get over stuff and he constantly says that he's going to go stay at his parents for the night even though he never does. The biggest problem is that when he gets upset he completely shuts down and won't say anything to me and usually I have absolutely no clue why he is upset. Our therapist that we used to see told him to just tell me what was wrong and then we would talk about it later when he calmed down but he rarely does that. We can't afford to see our therapist right now and I don't know what to do. I feel like everything I say or do upsets him in some way and that I am always apologizing for stuff even if it was something little that I don't think he should've gotten upset about. I pretty much apologize regardless just so that we can get past whatever it is and be happy again. I've been in therapy on and off for 13 years so I am good at handling stresses and stuff like that and when I try to help him handle something it never seems to work. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? I really need some advice.ThanksOther than this we have the best relationship in the world. We love each other more than anyone ever lol. He does respect me, more than anyone ever has. He just completely shuts down when he gets upset because that's what he grew up with. When his dad would get upset, he would shut down and sleep on the couch. It's not that he doesn't want to talk about stuff, it's just he wants to wait until he's calmed down, which is fine, but I go crazy trying to figure out what I said to upset him. I think he has mild depression I have it so I have a pretty good idea what it looks like and we were both just raised so differently. I just don't know what to do about helping him not get so upset about miniscule things that most people wouldn't get upset about. We'll be joking around and he'll take something to heart and get upset about it. I just don't know what to do.The problem with going and doing my own thing is then if he comes looking for me or something he thinks I'm ignoring him. And I know it's not always my fault and I shouldn't always have to apologize. But in a way it is my fault because something I say sets him off and I probably shouldn't have said it. I just tell him that I'm sorry for saying X,Y, or Z and that I didn't mean it to upset him. Once we talk we are fine but it's somewhat torturous to sit and wait for him to be better and try to figure out what I did to upset him.Leaving him will never happen. We're soul mates. No matter what we'll always work through it. I just want to help him so that we won't have disagreements as much.

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My ex girlfriend has been busy recently and she broke up with me because of it, she claimed to still want to be with me so I accepted it and waited. Now that she has more time on her hands, anxiously I asked her out, and she denied me, even though she claimed that as soon as her sport was over, we'd surely start dating. After hearing that she didn't want to be " tied" down, I was so upset and started yelling, to put it shortly. Although nothing I said was mean, the fact that I went off on her set her off because as selfish as it sounds, I felt like she owed me our relationship for making me wait, obviously it's her decision whether or not we should date but I've always been there for her emotionally and how am I supposed to react when she's been telling me she loves me, we talked about a long term relationship VERY recently. We have big arguments like this every so often but this one feels worse. She has involved her friends and naturally, friends want to prevent friends from being hurt, so she said she didn't want to talk to me AND she wanted nothing to do with me, I've tried to stay strong for both of us but I've come to the point where I'm letting her go, to see if she'll come back to me, if we're meant to be. Currently we aren't speaking at all though, so I fear that even being just friends is at stake. Is there anything I should do? I can't speak to her at all. I've apologized, sincerely, many times. I feel lost at this point, and I'm thinking that it'll all be solved in time, hopefully.

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My boyfriend and I have an 8 month old daughter together. He's been a good dad, in that he's here for both of us, and helps with bills and such. Lately though, I've been feeling a bit jaded. We used to split the cleaning and cooking duties pretty evenly, and switched off so that no one had to do the same, mundane thing over and over. He would get up with our daughter on the weekends so that I could sleep, and I would during the week, so he could before work. Our hours alternated, with my weekends being early, and his weekdays being early. It made sense. I make less, as of right now I have a new, much better job starting at the new year that will quadruple my income, even after expenses it even puts me at a higher pay rate than my boyfriend .Lately, he's been telling me how cranky I am, how snide I'm being, and how much I don't help around the house. Keep in mind, I'm doing much, much more around the house than I did. He seems to want to come home and play video games, and not really do anything else, other than take a half hour or so to play with our daughter. Once she's fussy, it's back to mom me . I don't want to make it about specifics, and keep track of what I'm doing and what he's not, but to make it clear, I've been doing the dishes, solo, for about 3 weeks now. As in, it's been that long since he loaded the dishwasher. I leave the dishes, hoping that he'll pitch in once in a while, but it's getting to the point that I'm lucky if it gets to the sink. I'm the only one who'll deep clean the kitchen, wiping down cupboards, the stove and appliances, and I've always been the only one who's even considered sweeping and mopping, cleaning the bathroom, or even trying to keep our room clean. If I make dinner, he might compliment it which, really, isn't important to me , but then claim that since I made dinner, I have to clean up. also not a big deal, but magically, when he makes dinner, that rule changes If our daughter needs to be changed, or needs food or a bottle, guess who's job it is? Guess who's the only one getting up with our daughter? Guess who's also the only one who has to stay up with her until she goes to bed? Guess who has to do laundry? These things wouldn't be a big deal, but I have to bargain with him to do anything, and on top of that, he's wondering why I'm being snide, or cranky. I don't think I am, but apparently, I am. He'll even say to our daughter " Wow, isn't mom being mean?" I know she's only 8 months old, but eventually, she's going to know what that means. Am I wrong for feeling let down or jaded? Sometimes even downright frustrated? This morning, he even woke up because she was up, and just ignored her and went to take a shower, expecting me to because, I won't let our daughter cry for something that can be easily fixed . They went to a family thing a few hours away, but guess who had to get up early to pack her bags, and explain to daddy that the reason I packed so much food and formula and diapers was because it's snowing and might be a big storm, and I didn't want them to get stranded where they are with no food for her. Don't get me wrong. I love him, and I love our daughter. But if he doesn't chip in once in a while, and at least make the responsibilities more even, and recognize that even though, now, I stay home with our daughter most days, and make less, I'm still contributing. What's he going to do in January when I go back to school, start a new job with many more hours, and have homework? I've tried talking to him about it, but he makes it about who did what, when, and how many times, and how many hours did who work this week, and " I'm tired, you got to sleep all day" . Uh, sorry bud, I go to bed at 12, and get up at 4, 7, and 10, and there are no naps beyond that. He goes to bed by 10, sometimes as early as 8, and gets up sometime between 6 and 7. If he has a long day, it's because he chooses to he has flex time . Once I finally start to make a point, he changes the subject, says I'm being snide, and goes back to the video games.This is really helpful, thanks. Do you think that my new job paying me more than he gets paid might be making him somewhat uneasy? I'm going to be making $3.50 an hour more than he. He also quit smoking around the time that this all flared up noticeably, and he was a little butt hurt that I wouldn't quit with him. I've already cut back a lot, I pay for my own, and that is pretty much the only 'me' time I get. I feel like clinging to smoking, as bad as it is, for me and for my daughter the example, I smoke outside , is my only way of getting time to myself. And, when he decides he wants a smoke about once a day, he smokes in the bathroom with the vent on, but asks that I do outside. While I actually prefer to smoke outside, and have asked him to many times for the baby, and for the smell of the apartment, I feel like he's shoving me outside while he gets to do things inside. I don't know, I think I'm just getting overly irritated, and everything is irriUh, 'Dr. House', That's not going to solve a thing. Plus, why on earth would I reward less than desirable behavior? Clearly, your ego extends far beyond your mind's grasp.

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I went out with this girl about 2 3 years ago, but she broke up with me, her friend told me she still have feelings for me about 3 months later, but i didnt do anything cause i was stupid and young. Now I see her about everyday and i just can't get my mind off her, whenever im around her i get this weird feeling and i get very shy and nervous, that i normally not get around anyone. I know i still love her but, now i think she is going out with another guy not 100 % sure , and i have no idea what i can do.well the thing is i haven't really talk to her since ever we broke up and its kinda weird going up to her asking her those questions.