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Question: Need advice on my relationship help!!?

(Posted by: on 2012-01-30 20:15:19)

I'm a girl, don't be fooled by the username down there.. I'm 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. I met him in my home town. We started dating and then I had to move out of state.. He later moved out of my hometown as well and moved in with me an my parents for 2 years. After that we moved out of my parents house and lived on our own back in our hometown. I hate my hometown because it's cold and remote and my dream is to become an actress. My parents moved to Cali because of my parents job, and I was able to talk my boyfriend into moving to Cali to live with my parents (after we lived in my hometown for 2 years) so we did. We have been here for about 6 or 7 months and my boyfriend already hates living with my parents and wants us to go back to our hometown. I am really upset about this because I love Cali and want to follow my dream. He says we need to leave in a week, but I don't want us to go. He says my options are to go with him or we break up. I love him to death but I want to follow my dream and stay here, I can't live without him.. But I don't think it's fair that I have to move or he breaks up with me he says we r leaving in a week and gave me no notice. What should I do? I asked this before and only got one response.

Posted by: Morgan on 2012-01-30, 20:19:57

Let him go, if he seriously threatend to break up with you just because of that with such short notice thenn mayybbee hes not as into this relationship as you. i know it will be hard if he does leave but that just means there will be someone else for you

Posted by: Anna on 2012-01-30, 20:20:39

Dang your situation sucks, but my advice is to stay in Cali. Is moving somewhere and being completely misarable worth it? No, no guy is worth having you be misarable and unhappy. Take my advice and tell him it's California or you. Men should be the ones to make sacrifices, not us girls. We make enough as it is.

Posted by: Anakaren on 2012-01-30, 20:27:08

I think if u really love him n u really can't live without him then u should go with him.

Posted by: thomas on 2012-01-30, 20:52:57

That is a really hard question to help you with, ill try my best. i would say alot of times in life there are two things very important to you that just can't coexist for reasons beyond your control. If you choose him, you can try to launch your acting career out of your hometown. this would limit your resources, and cripple your potential for success, but it still is possible if you work hard enough at developing your craft, and possibly using the internet or other means to market your talent. on the other hand, california would be a better place to pursue that type of thing, and you'd have your parents support. So in summary, the question you should ask, is whether or not your boyfriend is worth making your dream harder to achieve. my opinion, and it is only an opinion, youre life would be in better harmony if you didn't give in to his ultimatum. there are so many other people you could be dating that might actually compliment your desires.