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I met a guy and it's too early to tell if we really like each other yet however the problem lies with my job. He is really old fashioned which I like but it conflicts with me being in the adult industry. He is NOT ok with it if he is dating a girl who does video work but I can't find a job to satisfy my monthly bills and juggle school simultaneously at the moment. He understands this but also is just not okay with the situation if we were to progress to the relationship stage. I don't know what to do. He doesn't even want to talk about it. He just says he likes how things are with us right now and we will figure that part out if we get there.

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basically i KNOW this guy ive been friends with for 4 years really liked me. I really liked him. we got really close. we decided not to " date" but " talk" while we were in school bc we didn't want to put so much pressure on our relationship when were so busy we are both juniors in college just an hour away but i got a little insecure about him sometimes not texting me back. but i know hes busy with school, work, sports, roommates, etc. anyways we had a fight and he said that he didn't like the way i was acting and that it made him not interested in me anymore. he was so mad, he said " idk if we can be friends anymore." so, i apologized and explained that i was just trying to keep him a close friend. basically, i thought he was texting everyone from back home but me, but he told me in our fight that he texted me 10 times more than anyone else Idk if he really is uninterested. he blows ups sometimes and says stuff he doesn't mean.he texted me back after i apologized and said " its fine. sorry for accusing you" and then i said i was going to bed and he texted " night" I decided to give him some space...5 days. i texted him " whats up" and he said " at the football game " i didnt answer bc i was busy and i am trying not to be that girl who wont leave a guy alone to watch the game.i waited a couple more days and told him a funny story. he said " haha thats funny." i didnt answer, bc i just don't wanna over do it at first. i want to slowly get back to where we were " talking" before. I told him a couple days later that i was going to a jersey shore pitt game party and asked him if i should dress up as pajama snooki or club snooki...this is the light funny conversation im trying to do now. he answered and said " club snooki haha" I didnt respond but a day later, at like 1 30 at night, i texted him saying " i can't stop throwing up and youre the one i always tell when im sick. i didn't even drink. freaking eat n park and he replyed back right after saying " chrisssy noo feel better." idk i thought it might have been a good sign that he responded so late on a friday night. i know it sounds gross i told him but we both always tell each other when were sick or whatever.I always feel like its a good sign when a guy says your name in a text and for some reason. are things looking up? and is it good that ive cut back on the texting and usually make it so that he is the last one who texts me so i don't seem desperate? IWe really were close all summer. he broke up with his gf when he decided that he liked me and we used to each send like 50 to 100 texts per day to each other. i know that i wasn't a summer fling to him, bc he would not start something up with me since our circle of friends is interwoven. Do you think he'll reconsider if i show him im not clingy? like, my plan is to text him like 3 days a week instead of like 6 or 7, keep my texts light and stress free, and let him know that im not just sitting at home thinking about him by telling him im going out with so and so or that im busy, etc . I really like him, and i know that if i got another chance, i would not cling to him. i learned my lesson. but the first thing i need to do is get back on track. ideas?

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I knew this lady since high school and we dated a bit, but broke up after I had moved. I just met her again and I really want to ask her out , but I had just found out she is related to my friend and now I am not sure if I want to ask her out or not

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My guy friend and I are both 18. I'm a freshman in college and he's a senior in high school. We started dating at the end of last year he pursued me and when we split due to problems he was the one who wanted to get back together again. We've been involved for almost a year, and a lot of our drama is due to his fickleness. He gets into these moods where he is apathetic and also churns out some crazy ideas on monogamy, like that he shouldn't even kiss someone if he doesn't think it is a super serious relationship. I am really conservative, and even I think that's crazy. Just a couple of days ago he told me he liked me and he has been really sweet to me lately. His parents agreed to let him come visit me for Christmas so I bought his plane ticket as a little present to both of us $900 . I am so excited to see him as we had been planning a lot of activities and also private time together. Then, just today he told me he doesn't think anything physical can happen. I am so pissed off and upset. He was just trying to say all of this stuff to me and then go to bed, while it would leave me to be upset the next day. I told him I am fine with not being very physical but that I just want to kiss him since I haven't seen him in 6 months. It was a lot of money for me to spend, but I am not broke or anything, although I am pissed he went back on his word and is now saying nothing will happen. He isn't exactly getting a free " vacation" out of it we will just be hanging out at my house with my family for a few days, and I don't have a car , so he's not using me in that way, but it just frustrates me. He kept saying things like " kissing means something, and I don't think there is something" , " this is childish lust" , " physical ruins everything" , and on and on. He also said " this isn't about you, this isn't about us, this is about me and the way I want to live my life, both for now and for the future" , but then kept implying he doesn't see himself going anywhere with this.I have no idea what to do. It's in his personality to change his mind in the next couple of weeks and we'll probably end up kissing when he visits anyway. He still says he wants to visit me and that we can enjoy our time as friends. If I insisted I am sure he would pay me back for the ticket but it's not just about the money. When I bought the ticket he agreed that we would be doing physical things. What can I say to him? Is there anyway I can get more control over this situation?

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When I was 18, I started dating a 27 year old man. Actually, it was friends with benefits. I told him I had feelings for him. He said he only saw me as a friend. I found out years later when I was engaged that he had feelings for me the whole time but didn't want to " confuse his daughter" ... this is what he told me. He kissed me 2 years ago while I was still w my ex. I stopped being friends w him due to that. Well.. we're friends again. I honestly don't know if he still carries feelings for me. I'm 25 now and he's 34. He told me last night he's written some songs about me that he plays on his guitar. I honestly don't know NOW if he has those feelings for me. I'm single now and I think I'm head over heels in love with him. He pined for me for years but had a chance before my relationship. His mother told me awhile back he'd said he should never have let me go. Im afraid to tell him of my feelings in case he doesnt feel that way about me. Is it worth potential embarrassmentThe thing is, I don't know if he feels that way NOW. I'm scared to tell him......

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Thank you for taking the time to read this, and to all of you who don't believe in God, please no comments on that. Just take the situation and advise me. Thank you. So a few years ago I met a wonderful man, and we got engaged, however there are some obstacles. I am a christian and i truly want and try to follow God. He is my number 1 priority, and while my fiance says he is, i know he isn't, not really. I'm not judging him, i just see a lack of God in his life, and he doesn't follow God either. he has good morals, but he isn't pursuing a life of worshipping and loving God. I have been feeling for some time that God has been telling me to get out of this relationship before it is too late, and that we are not right for each other. But, of course, there is the fact that I love my fiance, and he has been very hurt in the past, and I am afraid my leaving him would destroy him. And I don't want to leave him, but I know that it is for the best. How do I do this? What would I even begin to say?Thank you to all who read this and help me out, it is very appreciated.No, we aren't having sex, and he gets desperate sometimes with this " please don't leave me" things, and I feel horrible and guilty, because I do love him, and I don't want to hurt him more, however, I can't be married to someone who doesn't share my beliefs, because I know I will be miserable. How do I break this off? I guess that is more what i am trying to ask here... Thank you to all

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Long story short... my boyfriend and I are 26 years old. We have dated since January... so like 8 months. I was so into him at first and by the end of June was questioning my feelings because he would never open up to me so it shut me down. In July he told me he loved me and by the point I wasn't sure. Here lately I almost feel miserable. He texts me literally like every 5 minutes from the minute he wakes up till he sleeps, all day while he's a work. It never stops. Then he calls me the second he gets off. Our schedule's are conflicting, so I normally only see him on weekends and maybe once through the week. Last weekend he came over and stay Friday the minute he got off work till late Sunday night. It WORE me out. He acts really immature ALL the time. Here and there it is funny but not 24 7. He smokes which makes me want to gag. He smells of smoke, and like the whole weekend he didn't brush his teeth. He burps loud and then laughs about it when I get annoyed. He talks in a gay baby voice all the time and tries to show out dancing and acting stupid. He embarrasses me around my friends and family because he acts this way. I haven't had the desire to kiss him or do anything sexual with him in a couple months.On the bright side, he tells me sweets things daily, and helps me around my house mow, Mr. Fix it, changes oil in car without being asked.I am at a loss. I have been feeling miserable and I don't think I love him, or really have feelings for him. Anything I did have feels gone and I don't really know why. He treats me good and wants to marry me. I want to get married and have babies so bad, but I just can't decide if he is the one.Keep in mind, I have dated someone 4 years before, and since him, I do this with people. I am into them for a month or so and then get to where I can't stand them... sometimes for no reason.I hate to break up with him... is there something wrong with me? Do I have some mental or social problem? I don't feel this is normal and I can't really put my finger on what it is about him to talk to him to tell him how we can fix this or whatever??Please please please give me advice and what you think.

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Please I need adult advice Desperate and at the end of maybe leaving.I am an alcoholic trying desperately to stay sober. I live with my boyfriend and he drinks every day. I told him that he should not leave alcohol in the house if I am alone. I told him if he wants to drink fine but finish what you buy and don't leave anything left in the house for me to come home to after work. He didn't listen. Today I am off at 3 oclock and there are two 40's of beer of Maximum Ice 7 % in the fridge. Am I asking too much of him? Should I be able to be stronger than this??? HELP

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REPOST Basically I've been with this person for years. Now after our on and off agains I've become tired. This last time really pushed me over an edge.It never fails, but I always find myself irritated with what seems like EVERYTHING they do. I keep wondering if I've fallen out of love, and am endlessly avoiding telling them those 3 words.I'm unsure of how to make them commit to the break up, I'm fine not contacting them but after their weeks of trying to get my attention I get sucked back in, even if it's when I'm telling them to leave me alone.I still have those... 'wow' moments with them so maybe I just need to put effort into not being upset?They offer to do things better, but it never lasts, and I can't ask them to change who they are and what they love to do, even if it is partying and drinking, no matter how much they want me to.I have no clue, I'm at a loss, and any advice will be taken.my feelings on various situations Angry when they drink party We aren't in High school anymoreFrustrated when I tell them over and over what doesn't make me happy Yet they continue to do it in different ways with a different excuse every timeExcited because I'm still so attracted to them self explanatoryHappy because when they try, they put a smile on my face emphasis on tryHurt when they leave because it isn't working sometimes they disappear for a month, have their flings, then comes back. Don't assume I don't enjoy myself during this time Hope this helpsI can't get passed the times they left, called other people 'babe', held them in their arms, cared for them...Maybe this is why I have so much anger towards them? I don't know.

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I've been seeing this guy that seems a little shady. He is sweet, but then sometimes doesn't call etc. He seems over the top when he is nice though like saying he wants to be with me forever and stuff like that, which makes me a little hesitant. Anyways, I let him into my life, meet my daughter, etc. so when he never invites me over to his house I think it's weird. My friends think he might have a live in girlfriend, baby momma, or some similar situation. But then on July 4th he invited me to a family BBQ. His uncle was there and a few other family members, but not his mom, brother, or any other close family members. I know that he had a house that was forclosed on in December so he is living with 'family' now and may be embarrassed of that. He also recently started a new job and is trying to 'let his past go'. He likes to hang out with my friends and I. His old friends have been to jail, delt drugs, etc. but I have known him for 6 years as a friend coworker and he is very respectable as far as that goes just not his friends apparently. My question is Is he hiding something or just self conscious? Will this relationship be long term and work out, just a fling, or should I end it soon?Get itgirl I have proposed that and he just says, " OK" and laughs. Then I'll say, I'm free this weekend and he goes, " lol... ok we'll see." and that's that. Seems like his avoidant behaviour is to just laugh and shrug things off.Mr. Dance Moves is right about me not having much time to date new people. I guess that's why it's nice w this guy is because I see him sometimes but I get to do my own thing too with my daughter . That is one reason why the relationship is cool and unique, but also why I don't seem to care as much as I have in the past. However, I WILL NOT be the other woman I refuse to be... no man is worth that. I've been cheated on and have n respect for the 'other woman' in any case. Hopefully I am not unknowingly the other woman, but if I do find out I am, I definitely will not continue to be in that situation.I think I will ask AGAIN to meet his family, plan a time etc. and see what happens. If he still says no, I'm not sure whether to keep him around for convenience yet be open to meeting a better guy or just dump him. Breaking up is hard for me to do I hate hurting people's feelings. I've tried 2x with this guy already and each time he promises to do better.

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basically i KNOW this guy ive been friends with for 4 years really liked me. I really liked him. we got really close. we decided not to " date" but " talk" while we were in school bc we didn't want to put so much pressure on our relationship when were so busy we are both juniors in college just an hour away but i got a little insecure about him sometimes not texting me back. but i know hes busy with school, work, sports, roommates, etc. anyways we had a fight and he said that he didn't like the way i was acting and that it made him not interested in me anymore. he was so mad, he said " idk if we can be friends anymore." so, i apologized and explained that i was just trying to keep him a close friend. basically, i thought he was texting everyone from back home but me, but he told me in our fight that he texted me 10 times more than anyone else Idk if he really is uninterested. he blows ups sometimes and says stuff he doesn't mean.he texted me back after i apologized and said " its fine. sorry for accusing you" and then i said i was going to bed and he texted " night" I decided to give him some space...5 days. i texted him " whats up" and he said " at the football game " i didnt answer bc i was busy and i am trying not to be that girl who wont leave a guy alone to watch the game.i waited a couple more days and told him a funny story. he said " haha thats funny." i didnt answer, bc i just don't wanna over do it at first. i want to slowly get back to where we were " talking" before. I told him a couple days later that i was going to a jersey shore pitt game party and asked him if i should dress up as pajama snooki or club snooki...this is the light funny conversation im trying to do now. he answered and said " club snooki haha" I didnt respond but a day later, at like 1 30 at night, i texted him saying " i can't stop throwing up and youre the one i always tell when im sick. i didn't even drink. freaking eat n park and he replyed back right after saying " chrisssy noo feel better." idk i thought it might have been a good sign that he responded so late on a friday night. i know it sounds gross i told him but we both always tell each other when were sick or whatever.I always feel like its a good sign when a guy says your name in a text and for some reason. are things looking up? and is it good that ive cut back on the texting and usually make it so that he is the last one who texts me so i don't seem desperate? IWe really were close all summer. he broke up with his gf when he decided that he liked me and we used to each send like 50 to 100 texts per day to each other. i know that i wasn't a summer fling to him, bc he would not start something up with me since our circle of friends is interwoven. Do you think he'll reconsider if i show him im not clingy? like, my plan is to text him like 3 days a week instead of like 6 or 7, keep my texts light and stress free, and let him know that im not just sitting at home thinking about him by telling him im going out with so and so or that im busy, etc . I really like him, and i know that if i got another chance, i would not cling to him. i learned my lesson. but the first thing i need to do is get back on track. ideas?

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Hi all. I'm a 37 year old man who has problems. Hope someone can help. 18 months ago I was seeing someone. It was just after a breakup and I wasn't looking for anything serious. We went out a couple of times and slept together twice. I ended it because it wasn't going anywhere. The day after I ended it she told me she had found out that she was pregnant. It was a shock She wanted to make a go of it but I didn't want to be with someone for the wrong reasons and to be honest I was a little bit scared. I did try and make it work but it was clear that I didnt have any feelings. We parted and then followed a difficult pregnancy. I tried to be supportive and went to all the scans etc. But I didn't want to give her the wrong impression. 9 months later and she gave birth to our beautiful son and since then I have been visiting regularly. During the past 9 months I got to know the mum of my child more and I have slowly fallen in love with her. I can't get her out of my mind. I sent her an email telling her all of this and she replied to say it was a shock and that she wasn't ready for anything serious. She said something might happen in the future but didn't want to change things at the moment. She also told me she has started to see someone else. She says it isn't serious but she wouldn't just drop him and she didn't expect me to wait and be strung along without anything at the end of it. That was a week ago and I am going out of my mind thinking about her. I want to give her the space she wants but I also want to try everything to win her back. I really don't know what to do. I know I had my chance and blew it but I desperately want us to be a family and I know it could be great. Please advise. I'm really going out of my mind thinking about it

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basically i KNOW this guy ive been friends with for 4 years really liked me. I really liked him. we got really close. we decided not to " date" but " talk" while we were in school bc we didn't want to put so much pressure on our relationship when were so busy we are both juniors in college just an hour away but i got a little insecure about him sometimes not texting me back. but i know hes busy with school, work, sports, roommates, etc. anyways we had a fight and he said that he didn't like the way i was acting and that it made him not interested in me anymore. he was so mad, he said " idk if we can be friends anymore." so, i apologized and explained that i was just trying to keep him a close friend. basically, i thought he was texting everyone from back home but me, but he told me in our fight that he texted me 10 times more than anyone else Idk if he really is uninterested. he blows ups sometimes and says stuff he doesn't mean.he texted me back after i apologized and said " its fine. sorry for accusing you" and then i said i was going to bed and he texted " night" I decided to give him some space...5 days. i texted him " whats up" and he said " at the football game " i didnt answer bc i was busy and i am trying not to be that girl who wont leave a guy alone to watch the game.i waited a couple more days and told him a funny story. he said " haha thats funny." i didnt answer, bc i just don't wanna over do it at first. i want to slowly get back to where we were " talking" before. I told him a couple days later that i was going to a jersey shore pitt game party and asked him if i should dress up as pajama snooki or club snooki...this is the light funny conversation im trying to do now. he answered and said " club snooki haha" I didnt respond but a day later, at like 1 30 at night, i texted him saying " i can't stop throwing up and youre the one i always tell when im sick. i didn't even drink. freaking eat n park and he replyed back right after saying " chrisssy noo feel better." idk i thought it might have been a good sign that he responded so late on a friday night. i know it sounds gross i told him but we both always tell each other when were sick or whatever.I always feel like its a good sign when a guy says your name in a text and for some reason. are things looking up? and is it good that ive cut back on the texting and usually make it so that he is the last one who texts me so i don't seem desperate? IWe really were close all summer. he broke up with his gf when he decided that he liked me and we used to each send like 50 to 100 texts per day to each other. i know that i wasn't a summer fling to him, bc he would not start something up with me since our circle of friends is interwoven. Do you think he'll reconsider if i show him im not clingy? like, my plan is to text him like 3 days a week instead of like 6 or 7, keep my texts light and stress free, and let him know that im not just sitting at home thinking about him by telling him im going out with so and so or that im busy, etc . I really like him, and i know that if i got another chance, i would not cling to him. i learned my lesson. but the first thing i need to do is get back on track. ideas?

Help! I need ADULT relationship advice?
basically i KNOW this guy ive been friends with for 4 years really liked me. I really liked him. we got really close. we decided not to " date" but " talk" while we were in school bc we didn't want to put so much pressure on our relationship when were so busy we are both juniors in college just an hour away but i got a little insecure about him sometimes not texting me back. but i know hes busy with school, work, sports, roommates, etc. anyways we had a fight and he said that he didn't like the way i was acting and that it made him not interested in me anymore. he was so mad, he said " idk if we can be friends anymore." so, i apologized and explained that i was just trying to keep him a close friend. basically, i thought he was texting everyone from back home but me, but he told me in our fight that he texted me 10 times more than anyone else Idk if he really is uninterested. he blows ups sometimes and says stuff he doesn't mean.he texted me back after i apologized and said " its fine. sorry for accusing you" and then i said i was going to bed and he texted " night" I decided to give him some space...5 days. i texted him " whats up" and he said " at the football game " i didnt answer bc i was busy and i am trying not to be that girl who wont leave a guy alone to watch the game.i waited a couple more days and told him a funny story. he said " haha thats funny." i didnt answer, bc i just don't wanna over do it at first. i want to slowly get back to where we were " talking" before. I told him a couple days later that i was going to a jersey shore pitt game party and asked him if i should dress up as pajama snooki or club snooki...this is the light funny conversation im trying to do now. he answered and said " club snooki haha" I didnt respond but a day later, at like 1 30 at night, i texted him saying " i can't stop throwing up and youre the one i always tell when im sick. i didn't even drink. freaking eat n park and he replyed back right after saying " chrisssy noo feel better." idk i thought it might have been a good sign that he responded so late on a friday night. i know it sounds gross i told him but we both always tell each other when were sick or whatever.I always feel like its a good sign when a guy says your name in a text and for some reason. are things looking up? and is it good that ive cut back on the texting and usually make it so that he is the last one who texts me so i don't seem desperate? IWe really were close all summer. he broke up with his gf when he decided that he liked me and we used to each send like 50 to 100 texts per day to each other. i know that i wasn't a summer fling to him, bc he would not start something up with me since our circle of friends is interwoven. Do you think he'll reconsider if i show him im not clingy? like, my plan is to text him like 3 days a week instead of like 6 or 7, keep my texts light and stress free, and let him know that im not just sitting at home thinking about him by telling him im going out with so and so or that im busy, etc . I really like him, and i know that if i got another chance, i would not cling to him. i learned my lesson. but the first thing i need to do is get back on track. ideas?