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Need relationship advice?
Before I start into detail, I would like to mention that my boyfriend and I have been together 4 months, Shortly after we broke up last month, I found out I was pregnant. He was mad at first. I kept talking about how I wanted to get an abortion, he told me if I got one he would beat me up,,,, meaning he would be very mad... I kept going back and forth about the abortion, cause I dont really wanna do it...I just feel that if he is not able to grow up it is better too.Yesterday I confronted him about being with his friends more then he is with me. He told me it is not fair that i use the baby against him, everytime we fight...that I threaten abortion to get to him. He told me he would be back, and today I felt bad so I called him up at his mom's and apologized for how I blew up with him last night. And he told me to get an abortion, it would be stupid to have a kid. And that he was never coming back because we fight to much. Then I told him I didn't really want to and he said he would call me back after supper. I need input from you guys in yahoo awnsers about this... do you think he really means that he wants me to get rid of the baby? Will he come back?
What are your thoughts on this relationship advice?
So, I was listening to the radio and they were saying if you are over the age of 25 and you have been dating someone for 2 years and you haven't gotten a proposal yet to be married that you should end the relationship and move on. What are your thoughts on that?
Need some relationship advice?
My boyfriend and I have been living together for two years, everything is going well, we love each other very much and are very happy together. Here's the thing, he hasn't been able to keep a really good job, so his parents stepped in and offered to help... meaning he would have to move back to his hometown and pretty much be under their rule. He's 21 years old btw. He needs the help, because they've offered to help him pay for school, and he got a really good job in town. This changes things though... Our relationship isn't going to be the same though. I guess it's for the better, but I just think he could have worked out a solution at home with me. I know we could have done something.Any suggestions?
Ending a long term relationship advice please?
I am a senior in high school and have been dating my boyfriend for the past year. I am going away for college and he is not and we both know that we are not going to be together forever but still its hard...i thought that we would at least make it to the end of the summer but now im having doubts about even making it until the end of the school year. I could explain all the ups and downs of our relationship but that would take forever so the gist is we never had that much in common to begin with, as i have gotten to know him better i liked who he was before i got to really know him i guess because i saw him from a different perspective things are obviously not good if you are disliking someone the more you get to know them, i am at a point where i am having more fun hanging out with my friends than with him but to conflict with all of these obvious reasons we shouldn't stay together other than the fact the he smokes almost everyday and that has a bad impact on our relationship he is really a genuinely nice guy who repects me and treats me well. Hes not a bad guy and i perfectly enjoy his company i just think that i have settled or am just plain satisfied or content with where i am but am not particularly having the time of my life. We have already been extremely close to breaking up so this is sord of my second chance that i already gave him for things to get better and im at square one. We actually had a really great day today we went swimming and hung out and had some intimacy if you get what im saying and these thoughts are completely irrelevant to how i was feeling but then i had about a 2 hour talk with one of my best friends who knows both of us and its just to the point where im comfortable and could go on but whenever anyone asks my opinion about how i really feel about how my relationship is i always seem to come up with what i just told you and how we shouldnt really be together. Its hard because im really close with his family and even some of his extended family i know things like that shouldnt be the reason to stay in it but it does make it hard its a lifestyle that ive adjusted to. Im at the point where i dont need to break up with him and could at any moment but its not an emergency its just i want to do what i want to do as a senior in high school with my friends and not feel trapped or limited in terms of going on vacations with guy friends or anything like that because i have a boyfriend. im not lookign for another relationship and dont like anyone its just an evaluation. Im not really sure what im asking but more than opinions should i break up with him now even though its random and nothing is really wrong? what should i do? who else has been in my shoes? anything will help thank youbtw i didnt lose it to him which isnt really important but it does remind me that im his first realtionship but hes not mine which makes me feel more guilty i jsut feel like im breaking his heart the first is hard to lose but i get what you saying yea i think everyone gave me pretty good advice
LADIES AND GENTELMEN...Trust issues...i need some relationship advice!?
okay where to start..I have been with this guy for almost 5 months. Within this short time frame he has managed to break my trust. 1. After about 1 month of our relationship some girl camisha called him on the phone, he said to her " you already know" and laughed n said hed call her later.it meant 'you already know im with my girlfriend'. he wouldnt tell me who she was for the longest time..an hour later she calls back twice. He wouldnt answer in front of me his excuse was it would be rude to talk on the phone to a girl in front of me..Then one morning i wake up to his DORM phone ringing no one calls that phone..we r in college btw n it was her. i guess she was on campus for a tour and wanted to see him.2. After 2 months of being together, i looked through his phone one night we were both reallly drunk he grabbed it out of my hand and would not let me see it. I had started to look through text messages and i that there was one to camisha and to briana..but didnt ever get to read them. 3. 3 months in, after all this talk about i need to trust him, i went threw his phone while he was sleeping and saw texts to a number not saved in his phone. Her signature told me that it was his ex , brittany, saying 'sorry i didnt answer' i look at his calls n that number isnt in there meaning he deleted it . So i wake him up out of his sleep n say why are u texting brittany.. the best part he says " whose brittany??" So after that i broke up with him, but managed to get back together because he did all this talk about how he really doesnt want to lose me n he was going to tell me and i can take his phone to my dorm with me everynight. I think he has changed slightly bc he tells me everygirl that talks to him on facebook, ive been with him everyday all day since..and his phone got shut off recently so i know hes not messing around there..4. He left his fbook up at my house one day n i read alot of his old messages nothing bad since we have been together and he would message a bunch of girls sayin hey sexy and such, while he HAD A GIRLFRIEND..he told me he was young and dumb and that he is in college n serious about me.Now we are having issues of trust because of this. He gets mad at me because i have been thinking the worst about everything lately. But i think like, if i trust him he will take advantage of that n i dont want to b played. Should i just back off n let it flow? How do i semi trust him so it doesnt ruin us?
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I ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He s my best friend and the only guy I ve ever loved. When we first started dating, he won me over by doting on me and being very attentive with lots of phone calls, IMs, and e mails, thoughtful little gifts, etc. Every time we were both online, he would be sure to send me an IM, even if he couldn t talk, just to tell me he loved me.Now our relationship has stagnated a bit. He still treats me well but never IMs me or e mails me,. We talk a couple of times a day and see each other a few times a week. Recently, we ve been fighting about Instant Messenger. He works at a desk much of the day and is almost always signed on to his Instant Messenger. I guess I m still stuck in our past and I always expect a sweet IM from him, but it never comes. I ve talked to him about it and he always has an excuse. Every day, he gets on MySpace and God knows what else but can t find the time to send me ONE IM because that s all I ask for, just so I can know he s thinking about me .The thing is, I feel so strongly about this that we ve fought about it the past several days. I ll wait for him to send me a message and he never does, so I finally IM him, usually with a pouty message. Then we have an argument where he makes excuses and I accuse him of not caring. I push the issue and push the issue and it drives him nuts and stresses him out. We re both miserable right now. I know I m pushing him away, but I m not having my needs met. He s not living up to the standards HE created in the beginning of the relationship.I also keep demanding that he break up with me. I tell him I know I m making him miserable and he should leave me. I don t think it s because I really want to break up. I just want him to chase me like he used to. I just want to feel WANTED.Am I being ridiculous? Do I have unreasonable expectations? I know I m probably being self destructive in the way I m going about this. How do I get what I need without making him miserable? I love him so much, he s an amazing guy, but I just don t feel very loved or even wanted right now.The thing, I just.. I don't know, and I hate admitting this but I am ..so, terribly stubborn that I don't know if I can approach him to apologize.I kept on pushing him away, telling him in every way to break up and move on and today, I guess he did. He said, " fine, this is obviously what you've wanted this whole time, so I hope you're happy about it. I don't understand why you did this and I don't think I ever will. Just leave me alone, then. Goodbye." This broke my heart. I had it coming. I brought it upon myself I literally, quite literally drove him to those exact words. So I just.. let it end there? I just let him go?I know I've made a horrendous mistake, I just don't know how to put aside my ever present pride and to make things right again. And well.. judging from what he wrote, I think it's too late anyway, isn't it?And despite all of it anyway, all of my .. obvious mind fuckery I'll admit it, it wasn't fair .. he would have still stayed if he loved me, though, right? He would've tried to work it out, no? If he really loved me, he wouldn't have left. That's why.. even though I know it sounds so very wrong, I just don't know how to apologize.
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My Conscience is really killing me because my girlfriends son is making my life hell. I have tried everything under the sun to be buddy's with this guy and it seems he is bent on hate for me. About 7 months ago i resigned from my job as a manager Great job of a retail store, to be closer to my girlfriend because she basicly said she couldnt do the long distance thing anymore, and wanted to be with me. Her parents had recently brought her a nice house, so the thought of moving to my state was slim, so i moved in with her Sep 09. She has 2 sons, 13 and 15. The 13 year old is very intelligent, in all gifted classes with a intelligence level of probably a 18 year old. But he has alot of issues....He is extremely antisocial, has 0 friends, even teachers have talked to my girlfriend wondering why he is so antisocial with other kids. To make matters worse, well not worse for being this, Recently we found a lot of gay pornography on his laptop, and looked at the history of his internet use to find he daily visits multibile gay porn sites, man on man orgy stuff. Then about a week later, im on the family destop checking my email, and did a history search, and found that he had been searching " Being raped by stepdad" " My stepfather raped me" Things like this over the google search engine, and i called my girlfriend into the room, she calls him into the room. I confront him over this , he tells her it's a joke, and my girlfriend believes him. She thinks nothing of it, shes also in denial about him being gay, because he told her he was just looking at gay sites because he was trying to learn how to masterbate. This kid treats me like garbage, he ignores me all day, never speaks to me. The other day he came in from school and knocked on the door because he was locked out, i open the door for him and say " Hello how are you" , he just walked past me without speaking. He never talks to me unless i say something to him. Sometimes my girlfriend calls the house line to speak to me and he will lie and say he doesnt know where iam, once he did it when i was in the same room. Few weeks ago my tires misteriously lost all the air in 2 of em, inside the garage And every time i talk to my girlfriend about this, she tells me she does not see a problem, tells me iam over reacting??? Yet whenever he is mad at me she takes his side every time. Once after i said something he said to me " What a dumb thing for you to say" I freaked out, and he said he said it because he didnt know what i was talking about...And she took his side, saying " he was just confused, thats why he said what you said was dumb" . She doesnt see a problem with him ignoring me, and has never talked to him about why he does it. Her other son has called me a once, and gave me the finger another time, both times she only yelled at him. So iam here, unemployed and depressed , thinking about leaving , would you leave? being in my situation?
I need relationship advice. help me out?
Okay. I have a friend of mine who Ive known for about 6 7 years now. We dated when we first met but I was really young and messed up the relationship. We've stayed friends but we have had a rocky relationship. I'm in love with him. The love I have has grown stronger over the years, even as we've dated other people and i just cant shake it. Ive tried to get past it and I just can't. I don't think he feels the same way. Can anyone give me advice on what to do here? Thanks.
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I ve been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He s my best friend and the only guy I ve ever loved. When we first started dating, he won me over by doting on me and being very attentive with lots of phone calls, IMs, and e mails, thoughtful little gifts, etc. Every time we were both online, he would be sure to send me an IM, even if he couldn t talk, just to tell me he loved me.Now our relationship has stagnated a bit. He still treats me well but never IMs me or e mails me,. We talk a couple of times a day and see each other a few times a week. Recently, we ve been fighting about Instant Messenger. He works at a desk much of the day and is almost always signed on to his Instant Messenger. I guess I m still stuck in our past and I always expect a sweet IM from him, but it never comes. I ve talked to him about it and he always has an excuse. Every day, he gets on MySpace and God knows what else but can t find the time to send me ONE IM because that s all I ask for, just so I can know he s thinking about me .The thing is, I feel so strongly about this that we ve fought about it the past several days. I ll wait for him to send me a message and he never does, so I finally IM him, usually with a pouty message. Then we have an argument where he makes excuses and I accuse him of not caring. I push the issue and push the issue and it drives him nuts and stresses him out. We re both miserable right now. I know I m pushing him away, but I m not having my needs met. He s not living up to the standards HE created in the beginning of the relationship.I also keep demanding that he break up with me. I tell him I know I m making him miserable and he should leave me. I don t think it s because I really want to break up. I just want him to chase me like he used to. I just want to feel WANTED.Am I being ridiculous? Do I have unreasonable expectations? I know I m probably being self destructive in the way I m going about this. How do I get what I need without making him miserable? I love him so much, he s an amazing guy, but I just don t feel very loved or even wanted right now.Everyone thank you so much for your words and advice. I genuinely do appreciate it. The thing, I just.. I don't know, and I hate admitting this but I am ..so, terribly stubborn that I don't know if I can approach him to apologize.I kept on pushing him away, telling him in every way to break up and move on and today, I guess he did. He said, " fine, this is obviously what you've wanted this whole time, so I hope you're happy about it. I don't understand why you did this and I don't think I ever will. Just leave me alone, then. Goodbye." This broke my heart. I had it coming. I brought it upon myself I literally, quite literally drove him to those exact words. So I just.. let it end there? I just let him go? I know I've made a horrendous mistake, I just don't know how to put aside my ever present pride and to make things right again. And well.. judging from what he wrote, I think it's too late anyway, isn't it?
I need relationship advice?
hi im a 18yr old male i got real bad problem, well ive been with my girlfriend for over 1yr and 5months and within 2 months of our relationship i kissed 5 other girls on a night out, i was a real arsewhole but i didn love he at this point just liked her. well i didnt tell her what hapend i just forgot bout it nd it didnt bother me but now i love her the whole world shes my everything the only girl wo keeps me together, ive never felt this way about anyone before, its amazing but i remembered what happend then and im constantly filled with this guilt especially since shes alswys nice to me and loves me immensly. i want to tell her but i dont want to break her heart just to make me feel better i love her too much to do that. but i have people saying just respect her and tell her. i just dont no what to do. after i had kissed those girls never slept with any of them or any other girl about a week later we broke up for other issues then we got back together 2 days later. i have well and truly learnt my lesson. but i no if i tell her there is NO chance she will take me back, god im an arsehole. i think im guna live with the guilt as a punishment for what ive done, and she will stay happy like she deserves. what do you guys think?
In need of some relationship advice please.?
I am seriously considering breaking things off with my boyfriend of 3 years. He's got himself in trouble with the law over marijuana. Originally he was offered a deferred prosecution program, but his case was sent back to the courts because he was " pissing dirty" and could not come up with the fees they wanted for his drug counseling. So now he is facing the original sentence, but from what we've heard from lawyers and the police officer that was at the scene of the crime he will most likely get probation. I feel as though he made a huge mistake by not taking TASC seriously. He could have avoided court all together if he had complied with the program and quit smoking when he was asked to. Now he is facing felony charges, which will prevent him from getting financial aid to go to college, and can result in probation or even time in jail or prison if he's unlucky. See I don't have a problem with people who smoke as long as it is done responsibly. I think he proved he can not be responsible with weed when he blew is chance at TASC because he did not want to deal with being sober. Should I stay with this guy if I feel like he may be an addict? I can't help but wonder if this will really be the last time he will go through this. Is it wrong for me to have a problem with him smoking now when I was ok with it in the past? He needs to get his life together, and I want to help him do that. Should I stay with him and try to steer him on the right path? Should I make him face his problems on his own? And most of all should I stay with him when I feel that he is making these bad life choices?
Help i need relationship advice!?
hi im a 18yr old male i got real bad problem, well ive been with my girlfriend for over 1yr and 5months and within 2 months of our relationship i kissed 5 other girls on a night out, i was a real arsewhole but i didn love he at this point just liked her. well i didnt tell her what hapend i just forgot bout it nd it didnt bother me but now i love her the whole world shes my everything the only girl wo keeps me together, ive never felt this way about anyone before, its amazing but i remembered what happend then and im constantly filled with this guilt especially since shes alswys nice to me and loves me immensly. i want to tell her but i dont want to break her heart just to make me feel better i love her too much to do that. but i have people saying just respect her and tell her. i just dont no what to do. after i had kissed those girls never slept with any of them or any other girl about a week later we broke up for other issues then we got back together 2 days later. i have well and truly learnt my lesson. but i no if i tell her there is NO chance she will take me back, god im an . i think im guna live with the guilt as a punishment for what ive done, and she will stay happy like she deserves. but i mean over the last week ive cryed every night over this and wen im with her and see her smiling it just destroys me, im so depressed its unbearable, the guilt is eating me. will the guilt of this eventually go with time or will it haunt me to the grave. because i mean i can bearly rememer it happening at all i just feel guilty and depressed i really need some words of advice thanx.
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