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Question: Why would my boyfriend take me on a romantic vacation for 3 weeks, have me move in and then want to break up?

(Posted by: Patrick G on 2007-10-29 21:36:19)

We went on a wonderful, three week vacation that can only be topped by a honeymoon. We dated for three years. We talked about marriage. He had me move in. I rented my current house, changed jobs and moved my whole life around to be with him. He has no complaints about me. Tells me that I am the perfect girlfriend. Just after I finally get settled in he decides that he wants to break up for no apparent reason. What the heck?

Posted by: Noneya on 2007-10-29, 21:39:06

Maybe he saw something he did not like??

Posted by: shallytally on 2007-10-29, 21:39:28

How are you behaving in his house? OOPS did I say HIS house? Are you choking him? Maybe it is too much space for him to lose. Maybe he feels tied up and chained up.

Posted by: ru2tipsy2c on 2007-10-29, 21:39:40

Because he is an AZZ move on and start a new life without him!!!!

Posted by: rmanion1968 on 2007-10-29, 21:40:29

Sounds like he has cold feet for some reason yrs is along time then decide to break it off. has he ever cheated on you or maybe he is just insecure about his self in the relationship

Posted by: E_mInoR on 2007-10-29, 21:40:31

Fact: - When something is easily accessible, one loses its importance.. U dump him or show that u just dont care.. he'll be alright!!! luck'

Posted by: just wondering on 2007-10-29, 21:40:54

"Patrick G " Maybe he found out that you are not really a girl.

Posted by: Carole Q on 2007-10-29, 21:40:57

Apparently, having second thoughts on commitment. That is VERY shitty way to treat someone. I would insist on a reason; perhaps it can be worked out.

Posted by: Confused on 2007-10-29, 21:41:05

He must have some reason , I don't think I'm hearing the whole story here...

Posted by: scorch_22 on 2007-10-29, 21:41:08

Afraid of commitment, or didn't enjoy the experience as much as you did.

Posted by: Beth on 2007-10-29, 21:41:15

Some men do not do well in captivity, and some men are just pigs.... There are no good answers, just say good bye and good riddance and find someone that wants the same thing you do and can make a commitment

Posted by: wildeyes_heart_of_stone on 2007-10-29, 21:41:24

He's probably just feeling like things might be moving too fast for him. Although the ultimate test on any relationship is the "moving in together " part. You should try to talk to him about this. He may be feeling a pressure to commit to something more than just dating. I would at least demand an answer. You changed your whole life around and he at least owes you that much.

Posted by: Milly on 2007-10-29, 21:41:39

Maybe he didn't realize how fast things were actually moving until you moved in with him. Maybe he's having second thoughts. I don't know. The best thing you could do is ask him.

Posted by: Anaiyah M on 2007-10-29, 21:43:29

Are you telling the entire story... Cause this just makes no sense... We need to talk to this guy.............

Posted by: spider817 on 2007-10-29, 21:43:56

MAYBE HE SAW WHAT A REAL LOSER YOU ARE.SOMETIMES IT TAKES TIME FOR YOUR TRUE COLORS TO COME OUT..HE SAW THEM AND WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU...HE HAS THAT RIGHT. SO THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO IS COMPLY...THE WORLD DOESNT REVOLVE AROUND YOU. AS FAR AS THE NO APPERANT REASON CRAP..YOU DONT REALLY BELIEVE THAT CRAP..DO YOU. IM SURE HE FIGURED OUT HE CAN DO A LOT BETTER THAN YOU.......SAD BUT TRUE.

Posted by: Jem on 2007-10-29, 21:44:25

First of all, it is so not your fault!!!! The only thing that could've happened is that he freaked out for whatever reason. Maybe the thought of settling down got to him - once it was actually happening, he had a problem with it? The only other thing that may have happened - I noticed that you said "you changed everything for him " - which is definitely not right. He fell in love with you for YOU! You should never change for a man....Be yourself. He may realize what he's missing (if he's smart) and come running back.

Posted by: mak on 2007-10-29, 21:44:40

Sorry, 99% of men are like that, only 1% men do keep their word. First off all before marriage you would not have moved with him. It is simple to say that he would take some other girl on trip and enjoy. Sorry.... we men are like that only. But, after marriage, we will not have any other option other than leaving with married women. And you know the trend now-a-days going worst.

Posted by: cutie on 2007-10-29, 21:45:47

He thought he wanted something more thought it over and decided it wasn't what he wanted. i think your better off and need to just move on it'll be hard but its for the best

Posted by: shopaholic_789 on 2007-10-29, 21:46:06

Well let me ask him. Hey Tom, why did you break up with Patrick? Oh really. yeah that makes sense. Oh wow, that's kind of harsh. but wait oh that's funny yeah i get it now. bye Tom. How the hell are we supposed to know that? ask him yourself. Plus wait, are you a guy???? :-!

Posted by: leslie on 2007-10-29, 21:53:26

I don't know either, but I found such situation of yours quite interesting. You see few guys prefer graceful exits if they consider ending a relationship, though many still considers harsh measures by just dumbing you off. And in your case, I think it might be one the its few. I personally believe that most men, when they decide ending a serious relationship, it has been all sorted out for a seemingly long period of time, and In you case, 3 weeks of romantic vacation has long been planned. There's a saying that all that begins well must end well. There is always lessons learned from such circumstances. Paul even states, "all things work together for good "Rom.8:28....still it has its continuation .to those who love God.. Life is to be enjoyed. God bless!