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Question: Is the honeymoon over? what do i do?

(Posted by: on 2012-01-26 19:55:44)

We just had our 6 month anniversary. We hang out 6 days out of the week, but he lives an hour away so it is kind of a pain sometimes, and also we don't get to sleep in much since we both work early. Anyways, I notice lately we aren't having sex as much. We used to do it every night we were together, then in the morning, and on the weekends in the afternoon as well. I know it seems like a lot, but lately, at night sometimes during the week, I will try to initiate and he just goes right to sleep. I miss when he would initiate sex, I feel like I have to the majority of the time. Things are fine otherwise, but I feel like this is becoming a problem...or am I just way over reacting? he is very understanding and I feel like he would listen, but I don't want to make a big deal out of it if I shouldn't also, he is wanting us to get an apartment together

Posted by: MiDnITe on 2012-01-26, 20:09:21

You have needs so tell him so! As much as no-one wants to admit Sex is a important part of a relationship. If communicating your feelings leads to a fight something is wrong in the relationship in the first place. You should feel comfortable to relay your feelings to him without the fear of it starting an argument. Best of luck.

Posted by: bendladybug on 2012-01-26, 19:59:06

Your feelings are valid. Can you ask him or would that lead to a fight? It's all about communication and listening to your partners needs. I don't think it would be too much to ask for you to ask him how he is feeling and let him know you need some lovin'. He could be stressed from work and life. But, bottom line is that being open about how you feel and how you communicate your needs to him is important. Maybe say something like you would really love a date night and spend some sexy time with him. Good luck!

Posted by: LilJoe on 2012-01-26, 19:59:58

Could he just be getting tired of traveling for an hour to see you?I dated someone 70 miles away for awhile.The sex was good, the time we spent was good, but as I tried to hold down a 40 hour a week job and see her, it got to where it wasnt worth going there by the time I spent gas and wear on the vehicle to see her.She didnt get old, but the commute got old and it comes a time in a guys life where you make a decision that your not going to marry this chic and feel you are wasting your time and eventually gets to the point its not worth going after...just my view.

Posted by: WeeDeeVee on 2012-01-26, 20:00:50

This happens to a LOT of people. It could be a lot of things- work stress, being tired, or perhaps gettig into a sort of lazy habit (those are just a few ideas). My sex life with my husband has been a bit of an up and down thing (in terms of frequency), but everything turned out ok. If it ever reached a point where either of us were worried, annoyed, or confused, we talked about it. Just be fair, understanding, and honest, and encourage him to be as well- without forcing him if he seems uncomfortable. Sometimes conversations like that can be awkward, other times they flow like you're talking about the weather. You just have to feel it out.. ^_~ And I don't think that's a lot. XD Edit: Don't worry about making a big deal out of it. This is a valid thing to discus if you're a couple. And if you're willing, wouldn't getting an apartment together make some things easier? Getting rid of the 1 hour drive could be great.

Posted by: Sheila on 2012-01-26, 20:01:38

It's normal to act like rabbits in the beginning. Ask him if there is something you need to talk about. Maybe life is catching up with you two, don't start stressing yet.