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Question: I got married a month back and want to divorce my wife for not agreeing for sex?

(Posted by: RK on 2010-03-10 08:20:54)

Im now early thirties. 3 years before I got engaged with a girl. In our community we have no customs to talk to the girl before engagement. So after engagement I was talking to my fiancee. She declared that she was loving his elder brother's friend (he also from same community). He was very rich and she was not so. Due to family status their love broken. Since already got engaged, I said its ok for me and let us go ahead. later she said that since she was thinking him as her husband for long, she is not willing to have sex with me and she wants to live with me as friend. Due to this reason our engagement was cancelled. But since she told me the true before our marriage, I started loving her without any communication. after 3 years she called and said she loves me and wants to marry me and live with me for an year as a friend so that something happen automatically. (in her family she was forced to marry somebody else that time. later I came to know to avoid this marriage she utilised me) This was not informed to either family. But immediate to marriage she started asking divorce and she wants to live alone like a nun with his memories. I tried to convince her how much I love her. but she hates me and not even talking to me over phone. Since a week after marriage we r living separately. Im unable to forget her, Each and every day im becoming bad on her. In the meanwhile, she is very close to her brother in law (elder sister;s husband). she hates her own parents and brother but not him. Now my broblem is I 100 % believe in first marriage and sex with wife only. I dont want to divorce her. But she is compelling me for divorce and not co- operating for any counselling or any psychiatric treatment. she is very adamant and arrogant in nature. Since I m a govt employee how will I suffer financially, if i divorce her (note my family is big and im not financially sound. I have brothers and sister yet to get married). I kindly request any kind heart to help me by giving some usefull answer. Thanks

Posted by: MIla M on 2010-03-10, 08:50:26

FORGET THIS GIRL ... DONT MIND OTHERS LIFE ...YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON ... DONOT WASTE TIME ON HER EVEN THINKING ... GOOOOOOOOOOOOOO AND FIND ANOTHER

Posted by: Starfish on 2010-03-10, 08:25:02

You poor guy! I don't know what to suggest.... It may be the best for you to get divorced and find a woman who loves you and will enjoy your sex life together as much as you will...

Posted by: Richard on 2010-03-10, 08:25:55

Hey! I'm in the same boat... just think, you are probably in some foreign country, with another culture, and even have hard time writing correct sentences. Yet here I am, fully educated and employed in the american way of life, married for 13 years with 2 kids, and yet my wife is exactly like yours! We are both in a bad situation!! Karma, dude... karma...

Posted by: LeXxie on 2010-03-10, 08:31:47

Omg this is a crazy situation! In my opinion i think youu should find another wife! if youu are already have this big of a problem now... imagine in later years? youu wont make it! The best benefit in being married is to make love ALL THE TIME! So find someone who is wants youu to give it to them(:

Posted by: cope on 2010-03-10, 08:33:05

You can file for annulment its not divorce because its something that says your never married to her in the first place. What are waiting for, she will get pregnant with this brother in-law of hers? How sad your situation is, ask your family for advice if you are sure they will help you solve and understand your situation. Hope for the best.

Posted by: Archana on 2010-03-10, 08:33:39

1st i feel so sorry for you.think twice when you do a thing.and when it is based on life think a 100 time.My suggestion is just to divorce her.i dont think its too late.So wait for the one who really loves you aand live happily.that one is so unlucky.JUst forget her.think her like a nightmare and vanish her frm your life.All the best.....Hope ull take a good decision

Posted by: Mayur 4 on 2010-03-10, 09:04:02

Go ahead, divorce her.... I don't know about financial outputs of divorce.

Posted by: guru on 2010-03-10, 21:47:40

Friend very sorry about your situation. Look my friend your situation is very dramatic because you love that girl who is your wife for you but you are nothing for her if you live with her she will make your life hell i think you must agree to divorce her and don't worry about the compensation she will not get any compensation from you because she never had a relationship with you like a married couple so don't worry and just be separate and live your life.

Posted by: chan on 2010-03-10, 23:43:11

Dear, I think you are going to face a serious trouble if you continue with her its better to get rid of her sooner the better. you are lucky she is asking for divorce I know such girls usually have affairs with others while they wont let her hubby to touch them yet they dominate their husbands and threat them with all those women laws i.e. dowery etc. and the worse is they dont let their husbands to give divorce. They live in their husband's house and husband's income but share beds with their bf's and most of the time in full knowledge of helpless husband. She dosent like you she may be having an affair with his brother in law. How you going to spend your entire life like this forget sex there is not even a love or feeling in this relationship. marriage is not just for few days it is for life imagine yourself getting old with no kids. sexless life may endup making you mentally unstable and you might endup doing wrong things to satisfy your unfulfilled desire. Think about your parents dont you want them to see their grandchildrens. you might endup raising/ supporting her kids which is obviously not from you but out of some of her illegemate affairs.

Posted by: Rahul on 2010-03-11, 05:10:39

I am also in similar situation and have decided to get rid of my wife. I have filed petition in the court to annule the marriage. I know it is hard but i think you should also do the same thing. All the best.