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I need help, i love my girlfriend so much, but she has had a bad life?
I love my girlfriend so much, she knows this, but she has had a bad past. When she was 18 months old her father raped her, when she was 14 she was raped again, recently she was raped by my brother. In between those times she was raped even more, she was raped so much in fact now she acts like its not a big deal. Because of her past she has major emotional issues, the pain she felt turned into a desirable thing for her.I want to help her so much and she has admitted that i have helped her come very far. The one thing that frightens me the most is when she hurts herself or asks me to hurt her. I've talked to her about it and she told me " because of my life and how much pain ive felt i need it to get by sometimes." Now I've had a bad life too, one that not a lot of people know about. I watch my mother and brother beaten in front of me. I took most of the punishment for 15 years. Because of my past I've always wanted to help people and the one thing i can't do is hurt someone else especially someone i love.Honestly at this point i want her to have the best i cant give her. I love this girl so much, but the one thing she will not do is talk to a counselor, because she cant talk about this to strangers. She cant take medication because she has almost no stomach lining do to 11 O.D.'s. Since she has been with me she has stopped the suicide attempts, however she still burns and cuts herself when she feels like her past is coming back to her.Her biggest fear is that her last rapist will kill her. The man was suppose to go to prison for 15 years however because he was a pastier and an alcoholic he was given only 4 years and recently it came to my attentions that the religious community is trying to get him out even sooner.What I'm asking for at this point is, what can i do to comfort her from her past as well as get her to focus on us instead of hurting herself. I would appreciated any answer advice. I'm not giving up on her she is the love of my life.

What was it like, the second person you had sex/made love to?
Im not too interested in answers from people that just had a one night stand and then went onto the next guy girl. I'm more interested in people that lost their virginity with a partner, stayed together for a while but then broke up and moved on to somebody new, how was it with the next person after you've only ever known whats it's like with one person for a year or more? Was the second experience worse or better. Im 32 and have only been with my partner and we got together at 20, so I've done ALOT of love making and it's always been ok, a bit one sided as I have a high sex drive and my partner doesn't....but for years I've wondered what it's like to be with another woman.No I'm not interested in people telling me that I shouldn't be thinking this etc etc, I've never cheated and proud of it, but I'm a hungry hot blooded guy with urges and imagination so of course I think these things.

This is the question of love?
okay so i recently go over this guyand im in luv wiv anuver gy nowi fink he likes me bak cuz he lykd me in primary skl and p.s.im in secondary skl now year 9also wen i go past his street he stares at me and smilesbuh sumtymz he hides his facei want to tell him that i like him but im too shyi hav figured that the only way to tell him or know more bowt him is to get his addy for msnbuh da problem is im too scared to evn go up to him nowmy cuzzie sed dat i have to come wiv herand shell go upto himand say dat theres a girl who wants your addyplz tell me itbut evn tho shes not going to mention my nameim still scared to go uptop himany tips and advice?i need answer fast cuz he will see me agen tomorw and my cuzzie myt force me to go to himplz help

Girls, how do I make her feel that I love her before I tell her?
My best female friend, we are not bf gf to each other yet, but we like each other A LOT, we got much closer lately specially after I helped her with tons of social problems. I do see signs from her for liking me more and more, I even feel that she loves me. about me I started to truly love my female friend, and we are really nice to each other, I didnt reveal that I love her yet, it is really hard to start it out for after being such loyal and sweet friends, also we share many things in common, we already stated to each other that we are the best friends to each other. So I decided to keep it and let us understand each other more and more.I do truly love her and so loyal to her.She already has seen how do I care for her and I always seek her happiness and smile in addition for being gentle with her and respecting her. She already know that she is my only friend too.So girls tell me how do I make her feel that I love her before I tell her about my feelings?

Will i get my love back or she will marry someone else?
my date of birth is 21.12.1982hers' is 22.06.82their parents wants her to get married to sun1 else

Will I be able to complete my post graduation or not? Is there a love or arrange marriage?
In which year I will get my true love? At which age I will get married? Tell me something about him & my future also........

Will all the women who love me on here please step forward?
Its OK if you have a boyfriend I will still work with you. Step forward now as I need to get this done as soon as possible.

Do i really love him or is it just attraction?
theres this guy in my class.whenever he doesnt come to class,i think that my day is wasted and why did i come to school that day,and i feel all upset and sad.but as soon as i see him,i feel super excited and like i have won an award or something wherever he goes,my eyes follow him.i always see if hes looking at me or not.and as soon as i see him looking at me,i cant stare much longer,though i try to,i just turn my eyes too quickly what is this?am i just attracted?or have i started liking him?thanks for answering

...I...love...you...?
...but I hate the way you make me feel. People are just damn cold and somehow we still love them. They are even more lovable, than those soft hearted creatures, like me,lol. But it doesn't mean I'll take the crap, I simply leave. So who's cold enough in the end,eh DAny ideas? Similar situations?I'd just like to hear more about this paradox.yeah, you'd be useful at the moment, Go Fyourself

Songs that reference love letters?
For my music coursework I need to compose a song about giving and recieving letters and I also need to provide research of songs that influenced my composition and my ideas so can you think of any songs that reference anything to do with letters, doesnt even have to be love letters.

Huh!? whats his game! would love any thoughts or advice please! :)?
Huh ? whats his game would love any thoughts or advice please ?ok basically theres this guy i've liked for ages..i'd say im about 85 % sure he likes me aswell...literally a few months back we talked quite a bit...he'd flirt with me and stuff...i swear i heard him saying he liked me to his friends and his friends suddenly all started talking to me...someone asked him what girls he goes for and he said 'hazel eyes ...curly hair and curvy ' which is basically me........but then we were off for exams so i didnt see him for ages next time i see him is prom he stands really close to where im dancing with my friends....he keeps looking at me.....i'm waiting to go and say hi when i see him dancing with various girls most of them a bit on the short dress slutty side....he dances with my best friend right in front of me but keeps looking at me ? later he says hi and we talk a bit ....at the end of the night he's asking my friend for her number ??..anyywayyy im totally confused and have basically given up .. on the first day back he keeps looking at me ...everytime i look in his directions he s looking straight at me...sitting down in the gynasium with friends when he strolls up.. looks at me but then sits behind with my bestfriend the one he danced with at prom...she asks me something and then he's like 'oh hi ruby do you still remember me? ' 'whats my name then' he sounds kind of pissed of ... a couple of boys who are my friends turn up and start talking to me and he looks jealous and he says there no 'peng' hot girls to me and my best friend ...so after that it was just plain awkward and it seems as though he s ignoring me ...no looking at me...no saying hi ....nothingthen suddenly last week my friends like jake cant keep his eyes of of you...and i do see him looking at me again...and all of sudden he says hi absolutely everytime he sees me just ignoring anyone else i may be with and he winks at me and stuff ...he also tells my best friend that she was a right at prom ? he is one of those 'ladies man' types but he seems to treat me differently from what i've seen like other girls he'll grab from behind around the waist and just not take no for answer etc etc but with me he just winks and 'playfully' punches me...stuff liek that etc ...he's asked me who i've been out with.... is he a player who just wants to flirt with me ...and lots of other girls ...or does he like me?

Help I think I still love my ex?
I fell in love with my ex at 15 we were so young and it just wasn't time for us years later me and his brotherhad a kid.Now I'm not going to lie and say I slept with his brother because I was in love I did it to hurt my x.He kept string me along and would tell me he loved me wanted me back ect he would even go as far as to cry then the next day he would go home to the girl he cheated on me with.Now 9 yrs later we both still love each other very much I know we can never go back so how do we let go

Have you ever felt like there is not a person in the world who loves you?
what should i do?

Am i in love??????????????
It feels like i'm in love with him. I think of him all the time, it hurts so much because our relationship has turned so sour. I don't want to be in love with him & i try to block it out and pretend it isn't. I knew this man, i met him about a year ago. I knew him through family too. I was seeing him at the local swimming pool & got to know him. i became attracted to him but i kept these feelings secret. He started to give me alot of attention but then i didn't see him for 8 months because i moved away with my parents. I had a little crush on him but he was married and old enough to be my dad so that was that and i knew that, i knew nothing could happen. 8 months later & i see him when i come back for a visit. He takes me to his house, his wife is there ect everything is fine. I saw him a few times & he would touch me and he was really nice & caring.Then he was really friendly & i was staying with my aunty and she needed me to leave, next thing his wife offered me to stay with them, i wasn't too keen but i was sent anyway. I had really strong feelings for him at this point, i was " head over heels" and so loved up because even though it was wrong he was attracted to me, he gave me all this attention which i wasn't used to. He said he hadn't sussed our relationship out yet but the next day he pulled me closer to him & was all over me. I didn't want to but we had sex together. I really didn't want to.The next day he wanted it again & i tried to excuse what he had done. He said he wanted to make me happy & help me, because i was so nervous. I used this to jusitfy what he had done. It had been my first time & i hadn t wanted it.He said stuff like " please don't fall in love with me" and i didn't think i was. But his wife found out & he twisted it all around on me. It destroyed me inside. I obviously meant nothing to him & he bided his time & used me.Even after what he did, i think about him, it hurts so much. He's getting in trouble & i know what he did but it feels like i'm so much in love but at the same time i hate him for what he did.I thought he was different, i didn't realise he was like that but he is an awful person i think now.Even after everything he did & afterwards..the lies..the horrible stuff he was saying about me..i still deeply have feelings for him. I know now that he took advantage of me and waited until i was 16 to make his move...and now its all blown up he says its all my fault.I'm scared i'll never move on from him even though i know i need to. Him being 38 years older than me. I was niave and i wasn't used to the attention. i hate feeling like this for a man so much older than me, he doesn't look his age but it doesn't matter, i feel like a freak & even after what he did. Am i in love? Please no mean comments.